TTC & Cerazette

[JBCG]

Hi, I’m new on here so please forgive me if this is already a thread (trying to find my way around still!). Just a bit of background, my partner and I have been together 10 months and I’ve been on Cerazette for nearly 12 months. He is 36 and I am 25. He has said that he would really like to start TTC as he wants to have a family before he is 40 and my current pill packet finishes in a few days. In all honesty, I don’t know if I’m ready, I definitely want a baby with him but I don’t know if I’m just nervous because it’s a big step (for everyone) or because I would prefer to wait a while. He is very understanding that I may want to wait as our ‘biological clocks’ may be on slightly different settings but he just wanted to let me know what page he was on. I was hoping I could ask for two pieces of advice?

Firstly, does anyone truly feel ready? As I said, I know I want a family with him even though it is soon in our relationship (when you know you know!) And secondly, what are people’s experiences in how long after coming off cerazette it takes to return to regular cycles/ conceive?

Once again, I’m very sorry if there is already a thread for this / it isn’t the correct place to ask / I haven’t used the right acronyms- I’m new! Thanks in advance x

Hi @JBCG
It sounds like he’s being very understanding that you may not yet be ready to start thinking about children. 10 months of being with someone is such a short amount of time but I understand that everyone is different and some things happen much quicker in some relationships. I was with my husband for 6 years (married for 7 months) when we decided to start TTC, we’d been discussing for over a year, and I thought I was 100% ready but then two days after stopping my pill I then panicked and took it again for a few days before I realised it was what I wanted! I was also on Cerazette but for a few years and it took me a few cycles to have a proper period and I didn’t conceive until the 6th month of being off the pill. However I have heard that some people have stopped the pill and fallen pregnant straight away so make sure that you are 100% happy with your decision. Do you live with your partner already? I know it’s hard but try not to feel pressured into this because of what he’s said about wanting children before he’s 40, having a baby is a massive responsibility on both sides and you need to be certain that you’ll both be committed to each other (if that’s what you want).
Good luck in whatever your decision is.

Erm i’m Genuinely not going to comment on your readiness/relationship but to say that YOU are the one carrying the baby and YOU will be the initial primary care provider so you need to be pretty ready! There’s another thread on AIBUabout all the things to do before you get pregnant... try and have a read of that!

As for Cerazette, I’d been on it for years without a bleed. I came off in December hoping to be pregnant immediately, it took a few months for me to have a period and I had a couple of iffy ones. Pregnant in August/Sept.

Very best of luck for your journey.

@JBCG about 18 months ago (jan 2017), my partner (who I've now been with 3.5 years, been friends 10 years, so know each other very well) said he wanted to start trying for a baby once we'd moved house (mid 2017-beginning 2018).
I was definitely delighted, but also terrified. Always knew I'd want a baby with him. But felt too young. Not ready to give up going out etc.
Moving house wasn't as straight forward as we'd hoped. So I've actually only just come off my pill a month ago. I'm 100% ready. We still haven't moved house but the times feels so right.
Over the years if often wondered if I'd ever feel "ready". I can honestly say that I am now.

I also definitely feel ready. However I remember just 7 months ago, before we were TTC, I was a week late and took a test and was relieved it was negative (relief was partly because I was training and due to run a marathon the following month). I couldn't imagine what it would be like to not want to see a negative. But now I feel 100% ready.

Your partner sounds understanding and he's only 36, plenty of time for both of you. Don't rush into anything unless you're 100% sure.

Thank you very much for coming back to me. Another factor that I have to consider is that I have a liver condition that won't necessarily make it harder to fall pregnant but it means it's more likely not to be a smooth pregnancy for either me or the baby. My partner is aware of this and again has been completely understanding that I may not want to take that risk and so we may need to consider other options. The more time I spend thinking about it (which has been pretty much constant since we've had the conversation) the more I think I am ready. I did take a test 4 weeks ago as I was experiencing symptoms, it was negative - I felt at the time that I wasn't 'relieved' it was negative as I knew we could make it work. We do live together and have done for 5 months. An opportunity with my work has come up that means we have the option of moving into a three bed house (which I think contributed to the beginnings of the baby talk!). I think I may be overthinking my 'readiness' - I almost feel as though I shouldn't be ready just because of how 'new' into our relationship we are. I'm confused!

I'm not sure anyone ever feels "ready" - we were ttc and I still cried like a baby when I got my BFP! You spend so long trying to avoid it, it's a bit of a shock!

I came off Cerazette at the end of a packet in February and got my BFP on cycle 2 in April.

My mum has always said there's no "right" time for a baby, you just have to start trying when you feel like you want to.

Good luck :)

Hi, I came off cerelle which is a different brand name for cerezette in July and seem to have fallen straight into a normal cycle. I had a bleed about 4 weeks after I came off the pill, and then had a 27 day cycle followed with another very "normal" bleed. So I think my cycles have come back almost straight away. I didn't test for ovulation last month, but going off symptoms I'm sure it happened exactly when the app I'm using to track it told me it would.

In terms of being ready it's a strange feeling. We have the odds stacked against us due to past medical history so decided to start trying even though neither of us where 100% there yet. Since we came off the pill in July I suddenly feel so ready I'm kicking myself for waiting until I did! I think hormes play alot to do with how we feel and what we want!! My husband is alot more ready for it now too, I think coming off the pill seemed like such an unknown at first, but now knowing it could happen whenever we both feel better. Hope that helps some, and don't feel like you need to defend your situation! Everyone's relationship is different and no-one else can judge from the outside :)