I don't know what to do next...

[Eminen]

DH and I have been TTC#2 for 19 months now. Not a single BFP in that time. I've tried using OPKs, charting, temping, 'relaxing', nothing seems to make a difference.
We had initial tests done on the NHS. Day21 bloods came back normal as did DH SA. NHS won't offer us any other tests or intervention so we'd have to continue the journey going private.
The costs for further tests at the only private clinic in our area is £800. This includes a repetition of the tests we've had done and a hycosy and pelvic scan.
We're not particularly hard up, but Don't necessarily have £800 lying around. I just don't know what to do, do I pay to have further tests, knowing that if there is an issue then I can't afford any treatment, or carry on TTC naturally?
I just have nothing left emotionally. I know I should be happy that I have one DD but I just feel at such a loss sometimes, mourning the larger family that I may never have.
Sorry about the rambling post, and I'm not even sure if anyone can give me an answer. I'm just having a really hard day today.
Thanks for reading

Bumping for you. Sorry you have having a hard time, no advice but a virtual handhold

I'm sorry that you are feeling like this, have you looked into acupuncture? It can help some people!?

I’m sorry you’re going through this op. Is there anything you haven’t tried, eg supplements, diet changes or homeopathic remedies (I’m quite sceptical but you never know). For both of you. Could you throw everything at it for another couple months then reconsider if you can afford more?

Another thing is working on acceptance of your current family situation and forgetting ttc at least for the foreseeable future but this may not be an option for you.

@Eminen definitely look at green smoothies and detoxing. Also vitamin C is highly recommended by many. I would also recommend reflexology and/or accupunture. I hope that helps

Hi OP, if you decide to continue to TTC, how about looking at the Sperm Meets Egg Plan and coupling this with Pre-seed or Conceive Plus lubricants?

FWIW, I'm in a similar position (TTC #2 for two years), except our NHS trust has carried out all the tests you mention, plus extras too, and we're now considered unexplained infertility, which is frustrating when we already have one child.

We've tried SMEP and pre-seed this month and I'm currently in the TWW. I'm having some symptoms but don't want to get my hopes up yet.

Good luck OP!

Personally I wouldn't bother, but I've never had the desire for children so don't understand that yearning.

It sounds like you would regret not trying. Is £800 worth it for you to say you tried?

How old are you? Do you have any indication of your ovarian reserve? That might help guide you on whether to pay for tests or continue trying naturally for a while.

Thanks everyone for your advice, I really appreciate it.
I've emailed the clinic to ask about NHS funding as I'm getting nowhere with my GP.
I'm 26. I've tried SMEP, we pretty much DTD every other day, and I have a low sugar diet. I have a pretty good idea when I ovulate due to tracking my CM but my cycles are irregular. I haven't tried acupuncture or reflexology so may look into that.
I would like to do further tests just to put my mind at rest but I realise I will be no further forward. Whether they find an issue or not, I can't justify spending thousands on treatment, I would just feel like I'm putting my family in debt for something that may not even be a sure thing.
I think maybe trying to get to grips with having one child is my best option. Both financially and for my mental health!
I'm feeling much better today anyway, had a low day yesterday but I've pulled myself together now. If I can manage to get further tests on the NHS then great, but right now, I don't feel like I can spend £800 to be told I have unexplained infertility or to be told that I have a problem I can't afford to fix.

Hi, okay as you're still young (and you are, even though it must be awful to feel time slipping on by) then acupuncture or reflexology might be a good call, as it can help you get things straight in your mind, which sounds like you could really do with right now. Not had either myself but others I know with fertility problems have found it really helpful mentally. Glad you're feeling better today.

I would definitely advocate reflexology. I fell pregnant immediately I had it and I know another couple of people that have used it and conceived.

I am always reluctant to say that it was because of the reflexology as obviously it could be coincidence, but I do believe there's a link.

I'm in exact same boat as you op, at a loss of what to try (whilst remaining optimistic for this month as ever) I'm thinking of trying reflexology next month if it's not this month x

OP, I could’ve written your post, word for word. I tried for about 18 months for DC2. No hint of a positive test.

The NHS carried out all the investigation including the HCG (HyCosy). That sorted the problem because I conceived that month. I’d like to think that the fluid that went in ‘cleared me out’.

I’ve also had a DC3 with no issues.

I would pay to explore everything because then at least you can say you gave it your best shot.