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First period after early miscarriage? Does it hurt?

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Pitterpatter01 · 02/09/2018 23:12

I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks pregnant on 4th August. We then DTD on 13th, 18th & 22nd. My miscarriage happened very quickly and had a negative test pretty much straight after.
I’m guessing I’m due my AF any day now (if I haven’t conceived again). I’m going on holiday tomorrow (3rd) and I’m worried that if I do get my AF it’s getting to be very heavy and very painful.
Those of you who have had a miscarriage before, was your first period after it really bad? How long after your miscarriage/negative test did you get your period? When should I take a pregnancy test?
Sorry for all the questions!

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Melamine · 02/09/2018 23:19

I had a MMC at 11 weeks, pregnancy was 6-7. My first period after was absolutely fine tbh. Think it was around 5 weeks after passing the pregnancy. Hope that helps.

Melamine · 02/09/2018 23:20

Ps sorry to hear and hope you’re ok x

loveulotslikejellytots · 02/09/2018 23:20

Sorry for your loss Thanks

I had a mc in March. It took about 2 weeks to get a negative test. My first period after felt worse than normal (pain wise) but wasn't any heavier than usual.

Weirdly my cycle before the mc could go between 25 and 35 days. Since the mc it is bang on 29 days every month.

I'd be prepared for it to be a bit heavier just in case, and have some painkillers available.

You could possibly get a positive from 5 days before af is due. Maybe try testing the day it's supposed to arrive?

Ells0204 · 03/09/2018 00:05

Sorry for your loss Flowers

Your MC sounds similar to mine in that it all happened quite quickly. My next couple of periods after weren’t necessarily more painful but I definitely passed a few more clots which feel a bit unpleasant.

Try and avoid tampons where possible and take some extra pads, maybe the extra long night time ones in case of a bit heavier flow than usual. And painkillers just in case.

Xx

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Pitterpatter01 · 03/09/2018 09:37

Thank you for all your replies! Will take pads and painkillers with me. Just want to get the first period out of the way. Hate all this waiting :-(

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Athers666 · 03/09/2018 18:35

So sorry for your loss, OP. With mine, I was so worried about the next period after my early loss, but it was totally like a regular one, wasn't heavier or more painful or anything. It was almost a week late though x

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Pitterpatter01 · 03/09/2018 20:34

Thank you @Athers666 that’s reassuring. I feel like I’m really getting myself worked up over having the first period for some reason. It’s weird knowing I’m waiting for a period when not so long ago I thought I wouldn’t be having periods for a long time. I thought that I had got over it, but I think the reality is I haven’t. I’m on holiday now with my cousin who’s pregnant so that’s not helping at all. Feel like I’m struggling today and just want to hide and cry. My cousin doesn’t know what’s happened to me xx

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sirmione16 · 03/09/2018 20:35

Mine didn't hurt at all, in fact even during the mc I was lucky to have some mild cramps. I'm sorry for what you're going through.

Athers666 · 03/09/2018 20:39

Totally understandable. I was just the same. Oh it must be so hard being on holiday with your cousin being pregnant and keeping all this to yourself. Are you close, could you tell her about what's happened? I told a few close friends and they were really kind and understanding and it did help x

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Pitterpatter01 · 03/09/2018 22:09

@Athers666 we are quite close, but she’s a lot younger than me (I’m 35 she’s 21). It’s her first pregnancy and it was unplanned, which selfishly makes it harder for me. I think it would upset her if I told her. Her parents know. I dont want to spoil the holiday for anybody else, but secretly I feel so upset. I was throwing up last night due to something I had eaten, my cousins boyfriend then said ooh you’re not pregnant too are you. It’s so hard to laugh comments like that off. It’s been baby talk most of the evening. This is so much harder than I thought it would be Sad

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Rachael321 · 04/09/2018 10:20

I feel exactly the same. I also had my mc on 4th August and feel like I'm just in limbo just now. Feels strange wanting a period to come when after ttc for almost a year all you hope is for it not to show up!
I've had wee niggly pains in lower abdomen for the last 2 weeks and I don't know what to think

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Pitterpatter01 · 05/09/2018 16:53

@Rachael321 sorry for your loss. It’s so hard isn’t it!
I’ve just done a test but it says negative. Lots of CM, but no sign of AF. Holiday has got a bit easier, but now I have seen a negative test I feel down again Sad

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Rachael321 · 05/09/2018 21:32

After my last lot of bloods with my hcg at 7, I was told I was discharged and to take a test 2 weeks later to make sure it's negative and I hated it. After a year of hoping for a positive test i had to do one looking for a negative which just felt wrong!

Another issue is that my mum had booked me and OH a two week holiday in Cyprus next August. Which won't work while pregnant or with a new born which puts the blocks on trying again now!

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