How much longer? Friendly advice thread.

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Hi all,

Basically what the title says...
Me and DP have been actively TTC for 6 months now. So far nothing has really happened. We both know we are fertile as DP has kids and I have been pregnant before a few years ago, however the pregnancy didn't progress.

I know it can take years, and I feel really rubbish complaining to people that have been trying for so long compared to my measly 6 months... but it feels like a lifetime to me.

Everyone is different of course but I'd like to hear some stories about how long it took all you guys to conceive. Also any tips would be great! I guess I'm just losing hope really...

Thank you all x

Also others in the same boat I'm here if you want to vent- I know I feel like ranting a lot lately about TTC! X

Hello! I can't add anything helpful, but letting you know that I share your frustrations! I'm only on month 3 of TTC so know I am being so impatient, but when you're in the middle of it, it feels like forever! Best of luck and hope you have some joy soon xx

Same. Been trying since Nov last year. MC in March and nothing since then. Have conceived myself I'm not ovulating!

@berrydelight Hi! Oh I know it's so frustrating isn't it! I remember feeling impatient when I'd been trying for about 3 weeks😂 it feels like it's taking forever doesn't it! Hope you also get some good news soon! Xx

@kingofthemountains I was thinking this to myself the other day! I'm not even sure jay I'm ovulating to start with! I packed OPK's in as it was getting obsessive! I can't shake the feeling that somethings not working as it should with me! Xx

6 years with DD and now 18 months TTC#2 with only a miscarriage last October to show for it.

I know it’s hard to get af every month, but seriously 6 months is nothing in TTC terms. Easier said than done but I really wouldn’t start to worry until you’ve been TTC for at least a year.

It just takes longer for some people than others and it’s totally unfair but there is little you can do about it so try not to get obsessed and let it take over your life. Take it from someone who knows.

Took us just over a year to TTC #1.

No reason for it, it just did. No fertility issues as #2 was unplanned and #3 was second month of trying.

Unfortunately it can just be luck of the draw (pardon the pun )

I know this won't guarantee anything but DH and I seemed to have success all three times when we only DTD once around ovulation time. Maybe it made the speed stronger I don't know?

*sperm

I cant help as such but we are 2years 1 month into our TTC.

I'm joining you! Only been TTC since March but it feels like it is taking forever!! With #1 I got pregnant on cycle 3 so now that has passed every time AF appears it seems like a massive kick in the teeth!

Fingers crossed it happens soon for us all!

Hi all - off the pill in Nov 15 waiting for it to happen naturally without trying. Nothing happened for a year (cycles were all over the place - had no period for 4 months at one point!) The started trying randomly from Jan 17 to Nov 17. Nothing and since then I am still trying but now with well timed sex every month but still nothing. Never had a positive pregnancy test and both myself and my husband got tested and results came back fine. So basically TTC is just really rubbish for those of us that dont manage to fall pregnant straight away. Booooooo!

But good luck to all of us - we just have to keep going 😊

I agree with you all. It's shit but I'm trying not to obsess about it. Not doing OPKs and no more temping.

Instead I'm booking all sorts of things I couldn't do if I was pregnant (drinking, skiing etc) - if I get pregnant before then I'll have to miss out on some stuff but I'm no longer putting life on hold just in case it happens!

This thread is so refreshing! TTC #1 since Jan 17. I'll be honest not always been very well, erm, timed but still disheartening. It will be our time ladies soon!! How do people just forget they're trying though?! That's the tip I need!' Love hearing people at, 'when we just forgot about it for a bit, it happened!'

Yes @kingofthemountains ! Me too - I keep stopping gym for 2 weeks every month in fear that if I managed to fall pregnant I will lose it. Now I dont care and this is the first month going to the gym straight including using heavy weights. I will stop if I get a BFP but my life has been on hold for long enough! Time to travel, drink, lift weights and do me again 😊

Hear hear ladies!! Go and enjoy yourselves!!
Ttc no 3 for over 2 years, one pregnancy that ended in mc post 12 weeks.awful,but the fact that we cant even seem to get pg again is tough too..
1st 2 dc’s conceived first go... but we were younger then... but keep wondering whether there is something “wrong”. Considering a private appt for investigations, but dont want to waste my time either xx good luck all x

Yes @DontCareBear!

Of course I don't manage to not obsess about it all the time...still an ongoing battle!

I'm considering paying for private tests but I'm a heavy size 16 (I'm tall) and I think they'll just tell me to go away and lose weight (even though I was heavier when I got pregnant earlier this year!)

Spot on DontCareBear
I didn't do so much in our first year TTC because I was always thinking 'I can't enter that event because what if I'm pregnant. I grew resentful

This year I've just lived life normally, booked things and then if plans change then they change. It's been a much nicer year for it (though nicer if I got a BFP!)

Just a little check in with you all - how is everyone?