If you already have a child...

[Sparkles1992]

Just curious... how long did it take you to get pregnant?

First month of properly trying for me, using ovulation tests etc and I already feel hung up on it, a tad obsessed and impatient during the two week wait.

I've read that the average is 6 months but I know it's different for everyone depending on their circumstances and was just curious to know other people's experiences!

Good luck to everyone trying

Definitely try not to get your hopes up. My first was unplanned and second happened first try so I feel like I must be quite fertile lol we are about to start TTC #3 and im trying not to assume it'll happen again that easily . It's hard not to though!

Best of luck and yes be careful about getting obsessed with it. It can very quickly take over your life with dates, apps, temping, opks, 2 week waits etc... try if you can for at least 6 months to just enjoy the ttc and still have a life, and hopefully it will happen before you know it!

6 months

1st cycle with DS1.

1st cycle with DC2 but miscarried at 7-8 weeks.

It then took another 10 cycles before I conceived DC2.

I was however still breastfeeding DS1 whilst TTC and I only conceived successfully once I’d stopped BF.

12 months with DS. 8 months 2nd time, but lost that one at 9 weeks-ish. Now 5 cycles later and no joy.

I’m still BF’ing DS however (he’s 2.3 now) and wondering whether I should knock that on the head (the BF, not the child ) in order to conceive successfully.

First try for my first and second children. I know I’m extremely lucky as average I read is 6 months. But I’ve also got friends who were lucky and got pregnant on first or second tries. I’m now trying for a third and it’s first try this month. So waiting to see if it worked this month.

Sorry, not RTFT.

3 months for 1st pregnancy
36 months of actively charting and trying for 2nd pregnancy - ironically just after we'd had preliminary test done privately for ivf

I found the book 'Taking Charge Of Your Fertility' interesting and helpful

First month both times. In fact we made the decision to try around the time I was due to ovulate both times so between deciding and a positive test was only 2 or 3 weeks.

We are very very very lucky.

I do wonder if some people when they first start 'trying' don't fully realise the fertile window each month is rather small, and they come off contraception then just have sex at random times and think that's enough. Because I didn't really realise this til I googled it all. It was drummed into me at school that any unprotected sex ever could be a pregnancy when in reality if you have a regular cycle then dtd on day 27 is extremely unlikely to be an issue.

First cycle with DD, 2.5 years with number 2 (currently 9 weeks) and that includes a failed course of IVF.

Really took its toll on us as a couple 😔

Hope it happens quickly for all those trying x

Lovely to hear so many different experiences and hearing so many of you didn't wait long at all for your little ones I'm on CD22 now and trying not to analyse every little thing! Ovulated on CD17 so unlikely to have any symptoms etc just yet.

I didn't know breastfeeding caused implications! These forums are full of knowledge it's great☺️

Congrats @moleeye ☺️ hope your relationship gets back on track now and you can enjoy your pregnancy together. Did you conceive through ivf?

Hi @Sparkles1992

No, we did IVF at the end of May and I did a test in early June and we found out it was unsuccessful. We then decided not to try anymore for another baby as it was all consuming and I felt like we had put our lives on hold and I wasn't enjoying the child I had 😔

Then in July I realised I was three days late, did a test -negative. Then I was 10 days late, did another test and it was positive. I think I'm actually still in shock. Bless my OH, he is so happy for us and that our daughter is going to have a much longed for sibling.

Over two years of charting, temping, taking every possible medication out there, acupuncture, reflexology and logging every time we had sex. Oh and the VERY expensive IVF, we get pregnant when we decide to say "sod it" and give up! 😊😊

Oh and I have type 2 diabetes as well just to throw a little something extra into the mix! Lol

It's been a slog, I'm not going to lie. Now I have the fear that everything is going to crumble around me. I've had an early dating scan to put my mind at rest. I'm 38, almost 39 so I felt like time was running out for me. Just trying to stay calm and not stress 🙏🏼

Baby dust to you all xxx

TBH I think it can vary massively from one pregnancy to another. Eg- took us one year and ivf for ds1.

Ds2- took one month- natural conception

Congratulations moleeye such a great outcome, it's lovely to hear stories like yours. You have been through so much. Wishing you a successful pregnancy.

@Chattycat78 Blimey!!! Sod's law or what?

@moleeye I'm so glad for you! Best of luck with the pregnancy.

Maybe there really is something in the (really annoying) idea that the stress of trying so hard to get pregnant may actually make you less likely to conceive?

@moleeye that's amazing, so pleased for you! I've heard of people basically giving up after trying so long and then getting their little miracle I guess they come when they're ready!

Good luck for your pregnancy and enjoy it, I bet your little one is thrilled- how lovely

Doesn't help to be obsessed! Far better if you relax, do other things and enjoy life. Then it will happen.

@Rebecca36 I'm not quite obsessed haha it's just that it's the first month of properly trying so it's hard not to feel half excited half nervous etc! I just don't want to feel the disappointment each month that must be hard, but when you want something I guess it's natural to be disappointed..

First was unplanned, once without protection - was 24.
Second was two months - ended in MC at 6 weeks - was 25.
Fell pregnant with third straight after MC.
Fourth was first try - currently 25 weeks. - now 34.

Hi @Gemsie1984 sorry that you had a loss and congratulations on your pregnancy I'm 25 and hoping it will be quick! I really feel for those who wait so long.

Aged 40/41 - took 4 months, had my DC1
Aged 42- first cycle trying, carried to 12 weeks but had silent miscarriage
Currently 5 cycles in and no luck yet.

@PetraRabbit sorry for your loss, I hope this is your month 🤞🏼 good luck 🙏🏼

DS took five months (four cycles as I skipped one after a chemical pregnancy). Still can't make up our minds about ttc #2!!!