Tempted to TTC#2, but shouldn’t...

[Goostacean]

DS is 6mo, and he’s so gorgeous and cuddly that I want another!

I’m off work until April as we’re abroad for a year with DH’s job, and I got promoted whilst on mat leave so am keen to go back and give the new role a good go. One DC is easier than two. I didn’t enjoy being pregnant, although was lucky to have a healthy and “easy” pregnancy.

But these are all “head” reasons... and I just want another one! Anyone else? Any advice on getting my emotions in check and making the right, rational choice?

@Hazandduck - that’s exactly it, I’ve never been maternal and still am ambivalent towards other people’s children, but I love looking after my own little one... DH and I had a long discussion tonight about childcare plans once I’m back at work, and I feel so sad imagining baby at nursery (even though rationally I think it’s a good choice for him!).

You’re also right about the window. Having said that, it’s been a tough weekend for various reasons and I’m now wondering how I’d cope with two- or even being pregnant (I was SO tired in the first trimester last time!) with LO to look after.

Turns out DH is not as on board as I expected, although I think if I categorically decided he’d support my vision for our family. As it is, I’m asking him to put his foot down one way or the other so I can stop thinking about it... and he’s shifting responsibility back to me! 😂

Well if you’re looking for another viewpoint, studies have shown age gaps of 4-5 years are optimal as the first child gets enough attention through their early years and won’t have to “share” you with a baby. Less jealousy etc. And ideally your body should completely heal from your previous pregnancy before embarking on another. At least a year, ideally 2 before next baby arrives. But of course, it’s your choice. Often broody feelings come and go, even if you didn’t have any more children those feelings would pass.

You’re very right. The science behind it is definitely a factor in wanting to delay... I think they say minimum 18 months between pregnancies (ie one birth and the next conception). I feel fine now, but I’m also aware that my tummy remains far too soft a texture 😂 Maybe I should spend the next year working on my core instead!