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5 replies

LittUp · 16/08/2018 15:01

So, partner & I suffered MC earlier this year. It turned out to be a partial molar pregnancy (I won't go into much detail about that as I still don't really understand much of it) and I had to be monitored for a while. I was under the impression we wouldn't be able to ttc for at least 6months - a year after I finished my follow up. Well I expected my follow up to last much longer but today we have officially been cleared and also told we can ttc again right away.
We recently got engaged and so I've thrown myself into wedding planning to take my mind off MC, and had convinced myself I didn't want to ttc again due to the trauma. However since being cleared for it i figured out I would like to, the dilemma we are having tho is that we can't afford a baby and a wedding at the same time! What do we do? We are only a couple weeks away from the venue needing their deposit so I feel so pressured into making a decision. Sorry for the long Post but any advice will be hugely appreciated!

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wombatron · 16/08/2018 15:03

Nobody can answer this for you. It's about what's more important for you. For me it was getting married before TTC.

blueskiesandforests · 16/08/2018 15:07

How old are you?
There are often practical advantages to being married before having a baby with someone, most of which are not romantic but prosaic and more along the lines of insurance.
A wedding is just a party though.

If you're 39 have a registry office wedding in your favourite outfit Ron your cupboard with 2 witnesses and get on and TTC, if you're 24 have your party if you're under 24 don't do either just yet

Lightsonthewater · 16/08/2018 15:07

Whilst knowing nothing of your financial arrangements, based on the advice that appears here frequently and being completely practical about things, I’d made sure I was married before I became a mother.

ohgodnotyouagain · 16/08/2018 15:11

We decided we wanted to do both - I came off the pill, we booked the church and venue for 7 weeks later :)

Didn't have the 'big' wedding i.e sit down meal, 100 guests, party into the night etc but we did have the service, then a bbq at a lovely venue for 60 people which finished late evening and DH and I enjoyed the rest of the night on our own, it was bliss!

Found out I was pregnant one week after we got married and now coming up to our one year anniversary with a 4 months old baby!

Wouldn't change it Smile

Mishappening · 16/08/2018 15:16

Have a small wedding AND a baby.

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