Potential miscarriage - any hope?

[Spottyyellowdress]

Hi all

Af is 5 days late - tested the day it was due and then again today. Very very faint lines on 4 different tests today. Lots of symptoms.

Almost as soon as I’d done them, I got cramping, severe lower back pain, feel faint and sick and started spotting. It’s over before it began again isn’t it? Does anyone think there’s any hope at all for this one?

Had two chemical pregnancies the last two months too, but early line then a relatively normal AF only a couple of days late.

This is cycle 13 for us ttc no 1.

It's easier said than done but try not to panic yet!
Cramping is perfectly normal in very early pregnancy so that's not a worry. It's also not unusual to have spotting or a bleed and go on to have a healthy pregnancy.

All you can do is wait I'm afraid and maybe test once a day with fmu or every other day to make sure you're still getting bfps. Don't test multiple times a day because there's so many factors that could affect the faintness of the line you'll only worry yourself even more.

Good luck and I really hope this turns out to be a sticky little bean for you!

Thank you so much @bobo90 - waiting it out really is the only way. Luckily off work this week so it’s pyjamas and rubbish tv for the rest of the day.

I think if I’d had a good line earlier and then all this I’d be less worried but all put together feels like it was never viable anyway.

Will wait it out, see what happens and maybe book a gp appointment depending on what happens in the next few days? Really appreciate the reassurance.

When I had a chemical the bleeding was definitely heavier than spotting and I passed clots, which is when I knew that it was a mc and not Easton af. Plus I was still testing positive a few weeks later. So if the spotting isn’t heavy then there’s still hope. Also my friend bled throughout her 2 pregnancies and she has 2 healthy children. Fingers crossed for you, but I know the waiting is horrible! X

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Thanks guys - still some bleeding, more pink than red but cramps have eased up. I guess I’ll wait and see.

Let us know how you get on. The waiting and not knowing is the worse part, so stay strong xx

@mummytoboyxx thanks so much - I will do.

Properly bleeding this morning 😢

So sorry to see this @spottyyellowdress.

Don’t know if it’s worth starting a new thread or if anyone here has any advice - what do we do now? We’ve been trying properly for 13 months now - temping, opks, preseed - and in that time I think I’ve had two chemical pregnancies. Before that, we’ve had two years of not using any contraception, just withdrawal though I wasn’t really tracking so it was all guesswork (obv didn’t mind if we got pregnant!)

Had day 21 bloods to check for ovulation which came back fine, swabs, scabs and internal checks and no problems there. DH has had a sperm analysis - no problems. GP said they couldn’t refer to a fertility clinic until after 2 years.

Can’t beleive it’s taken this long. Every month is emotionally worse, my periods seem to be getting heavier and more painful every time and as strong as our relationship is, this is really taking its toll.

Oh no I'm really sorry @Spottyyellowdress take care of yourself in the next few days . Take a test when the bleeding stopped just to check it definitely was another chemical.

It might be worth seeing the gp again as you've had 3 chemicals in a row but I'm not sure what they do for that. Also mention the painful periods. Did they do an ultrasound when doing the fertility checks? Xx

@bobo90 thank you. 💐 I’ve had two ultrasounds now, initially for painful periods but nothing showed up. I’ll def test again but (tmi!) already had to empty my moon cup twice since getting up and it’s very clotty.

Think the worst of it this time is that Dh is obviously devastated - we had a week off work together and there was so much hope at the beginning of it.

So sorry to hear this @Spottyyellowdress. I definitely think you need to go back to the gp. If you’ve had 3 chemicals plus you’ve been ttc for over a year surely they should start to investigate a bit more. I’ve only had 1 chemical, but I know how much that has taken its toll on my body, physically and emotionally, so I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Talk to DH and stay strong together. You’ll need each other. Sending hugs

@Spottyyellowdress I know how you feel. I had an mc at 8 weeks and I felt so bad for my dh and that I'd let him down. Just remember that it's not your fault. It's difficult and devestating but you have to keep telling yourself that although you've had these losses your body is doing what it's supposed to. When I called about my mc my gp told me that the human body is pretty amazing and has a very strict 'quality control' check. Unfortunately this time baby didn't meet those standards but that doesn't mean next time it won't be perfectly fine. It gave me a little comfort.

Don't give up hope! I was similar to you, had all the first fertility checks, had a loss and after 15 months I got my sticky bean who is now currently attacking my feet with a rattle 🙂
It will happen for you!! Take care of yourself for the rest of the week, lots of snuggles with dh and all the chocolate you can find xxx

@bobo90 thank you so much. Booked a GP appointment and an acupuncture consultation so at least I feel like I’m being proactive rather than just feeling sorry for myself.

You lot are ace - thanks so so much for the support and hope.

@mamatobe2019
Congrats but I assume your post was meant for a different thread? Please ask mumsnet to delete it as this certainly isn't the place for it

Ohh you beat me to it 🙂 Thanks!

@Spottyyellowdress that's a good way to be! Maybe the acupuncture will do the trick 😊 X

Well done @bobo90 was just about to say the same

@spottyyellowdress sending you lots of hugs. Definitely be proactive, I am so sorry you are going through this xxx

@eastend2015 thank you so much xx