Stress of ttc

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Ive come here for a rant and to chat with others going through the same. I’ve been ttc from 14 months and I have endometriosis so every month that I don’t fall pregnant I have disappointment plus extreme pain . Af is regular normally 28-29 and every month ovulation is easily detected due to extremely wet cm. this month I decided to go back to opk tests as feeling desperate, had positive from day 13 and still positive today day 15, photo attached. Don’t know if normal to get positive for so long!

Had big row with oh this morning as I felt that he was interested in BD. The stress is getting to us both, we had a long talk and I cried for an hour. He feels like there’s to much pressure and like a tick box exercise. I told him I felt like he didn’t want me, wasn’t interested in bd hardly ever . It was a long talk , I told him I felt bad for pressuring him but that it was only few days month , he says he’d try make more effort . So I’m feeling pretty rubbish today, I’m fed up that conceiving is all I think about, all I read about ! It seems it’s so easy for everyone else! Anyone else going through / feel the same? Thanks for listening xx

It's not easy for everyone else, although I know it feels that way. I'm sorry you're finding it so tough... it is shit. Hop over to the infertility board for some good company.

I found counselling and acupuncture helpful to me. Be kinder to yourself.

I have endometriosis only just started ttc. Have you had surgery recently to remove endometriosis my consultant says that can help some women conceive. They don’t know why but it can for some. Also have you seen the gp for a chat to see if they can refer you. As you are over a year and normally after 6 months with endo and pcos you can start being refered. Hopefully having a a chat with your oh helped a bit.

Thanks for your replies. Gp tried to refer me but it came back saying despite having endo still have to wait 2 years. I’ve only had laposcopy to diagnose me 8 years ago they never did any laser they just told me to start the pill so I did which helped hugely until I stopped it 14 months ago! I know lots of people suffer to that’s why it’s nice to chat with people who understand xx

Do not have laser I had 3 of those surgeries and it came back worse each time. The last time I had excision where it was cut away as it was so deep we will see if it works. It might be worth looking at getting a refferal to have your endometriosis treated which might help. If the surgery doesn’t then at least you know before waiting 2 years. It can also help with the pain if it is bad.

I’m waiting to go back to my gynaecologist so will see what they suggest

I’d really recommend going to an endometriosis centre. General gyn aren’t the best with endometriosis laser only removes the top layer. Did they say how severe yours is? I have moderate endometriosis but pain doesn’t always match severity. Nor does the stage match infertility. There are some really good support groups on Facebook who have some World experts on the topic.

Hi OP. Sorry it's so difficult for you... I've just reached 2yrs and waiting for my first referral appt. I get lots of dark lines on the OPKs too... for a week sometimes but they are usually not quite as dark as the test line and the instructions say it's not positive until that happens? Some suggest trying them 3 times a day to catch the actual peak... I'm just trying this approach now... but can't figure out how to do it at lunchtime (at work. no break. or at least, I'd be missed if I hid in the loo for 15+ min everyday!).

You are not alone, although I know it feels like that. I would suggest bbt as it really takes the guessing out of opks. If you do it properly you will see a clear shift in temperature indicating ovulation. I'm on cycle 16 so I know how frustrating this all is but keep taking to your OH and don't keep it all in. I'm going to try acupuncture to see if it helps with the stress. I wouldn't have said I am stressed but I've actually realised deep down I'm not ok, not sleeping probably, not wanting to eat sometimes, not wanting to do anything. Look after yourself.

Thankyou all for your kind words and tips! Oh been more supported since we had our long talk think he can see how much it’s effecting me now. I am on day 4 of positive opk. Test line never darker than control but equal! Cd 13 -16. Lots of cm maybe I always gear up for ovulation but never do? Who knows. No idea how bad endometriosis is as they never told me but each month is getting worse ... pain wise ...and effecting bladder and bowel each month so feel it’s getting worse.

I hate endometriosis it’s a terrible disease. The count down to period day is the worst! Make sure you see a specialist in excision laser On it’s own doesn’t do much. Try endometropolis on Facebook it’s a lovely supportive group with lots of knowledgable people on it :)