TTC #1 and feeling stressed 😩

[Amie8184]

I'm 33 and we are ttc first baby. It seems everyone I know is pregnant or has just had babies. I know all the advice about trying to get enough sleep, keep stress levels down, exercise etc... but Its just making me stress out even more 🙈 Im finding it difficult to sleep and just keep worrying thinking about my age and convinced I'm not going to be able to conceive naturally 😭

friends have told me to just stop thinking about it and it will happen.. but I won't listen to anyone 🙄

Sorry for the rant.. I've had about 2 hours sleep again and I'm just so stressed out about it all. My ovulation window is a few days off which is sending me a little bit crazy I think thinking I need to be in tip top condition etc for that baby dust 🙈🤣

Does anyone have any advice or been through similar experience when ttc?

I know what you mean. I’m finding it very hard not to get stressed, and people telling my that relaxing is the best way to conceive is not helpful! I feel like I spent 31 years panicking I could get pregnant at any point if I wasn’t careful, then as soon as I came off contraception my mind just knew that conception would be hard.

Maybe try to focus on another project to take the pressure off a bit? Pick up yoga or meditation. If you find the answer, let me know!

I feel your pain. I’m 34, TTC #1 for the last 7 cycles. I’ve been pestered by everyone for years about how ‘the clocks ticking’ ‘time is running out’ etc. Honestly, it just pushed me in the opposite direction. It’s only when DP said he really wanted kids I changed my mind. Now I’m thinking that this is my own fault for being so obstinate 🙈 trying to de stress only makes you more stressed, I think that’s the same for everyone 🙂 you’re definitely not alone, FX for you!

Thank you! It's so hard to try to stay positive and focus on other things isn't it?! I've recently taken up yoga and going to try meditation too. It can't make me feel any more stressed anyway I was kinda feeling the same wishing we had started trying sooner but we weren't ready. I know loads of people are able to conceive into their 40s even so I'm probably just overthinking and panicking too much. To put my post in context - 2 younger friends have had babies in the last couple of days so I think My minds just gone into overdrive! Hopefully we will all get good news soon xx

Don't worry about it. The data say that your chance of conceiving is pretty much the same as that of a 20-year old! Fertility doesn't just fall off a cliff, it's a gradual decline and that doesn't start (on average!) until after about 35 - and even then the drop is not a big as you'd think based on the panicked shrieks you're bombarded with. Chances are, you'll be absolutely fine!

@amie8184 I’m 32 and this is how I felt trying for the first time this month. It hasn’t helped being off work for the holiday. How long have you been trying for? To get my mind off things I’ve been cooking more and trying to go to the gym. I have started accupuncture and it felt good going to the woman and talking things through. She established very quickly that I’m stressing about my age.
My advice is rant if you need to, you’ll fell better once it’s all out

@Smileyface32 sorry to hear you're stressing out too but that sounds like the acupuncture will really help. I might look into it too if the yoga and meditation doesn't work. I feel a bit better today after a better sleep last night too. Been trying 5 months so not really long enough to worry I suppose. I think it's just because it's outta my control in a way and it will happen when it's meant to happen I suppose (fingers crossed anyway haha) xx

@catlady3 thank you. That's really comforting. I never really thought Of it like that before. You're right it will be a gradual thing. I think my younger friends having babies recently has just freaked me out a bit. 😂 only been trying 5 months so I should probably calm myself down. I'm not 34 til October so still plenty of time fingers crossed xx

I felt the same when trying to conceive #1! I think a lot of women have this fear, it won't happen to me, it's to good to be true, I can't imagine being a mum etc etc... then you get that BFP & think well... shit I guess it does happen to me! Daughter is 13 months now & I still look at sometimes like did I really make you? I am a mother!? Good luck OP, I'm sure you'll have no problems, make the process as fun as possible