Not trying / Not Preventing

[Periwinklethekittycat]

Hello! I think this is where my DP and I are the moment, however it does involve removing my copper coil, so to me it sounds more like trying than not?? Just interested to see other POVs!

You are currently preventing? So in order to ntnp you can't be on birth control.

Either you’re trying, in which case you are knowingly having unprotected sex, or you’re using birth control so you’re not. Not really sure what your question is....

On one hand, preventing = not trying, but I wouldn't say not preventing = trying. Lots of people don't use birth control or natural planning but it doesn't necessarily mean they are trying to get pregnant.

However, if you are actively taking your coil out to increase chances of conception then I would say that that does mean you are now effectively "trying".

I'm not quite sure what you are asking. If you are getting your form of birth control removed and still having sex, you need to be certain that both you and DP would be happy if you became pregnant. Have you and him actually talked about if you want a baby?

If your not preventing your trying!
But I’d say there’s passive trying- which sounds like what you are doing
Which is different from actively trying (timing for ovulation etc)
Either way you should take folic acid as it’s recommended for minimum 12 weeks before conceiving

Sounds like us - we were of the 'if it's meant to be, great, if not that's fine too' mindset. Just a heads up though- we got pregnant first month of not preventing! Bit of a shock, although it really shouldn't have been I guess! We're really happy but just be prepared (as much as you can be) either for something to happen straightaway - or on the other hand not. I still don't know how prepared we would have been really for the eventuality that nothing resulted for a long time/ever. Also I would second the folic acid advice- we were so convinced it would take ages for anything to happen if ever that I didn't bother researching anything and didn't know you were meant to take it beforehand. Also keep notes of the dates of your last period- did not realise I would need that either and spent the first 12 weeks panicking that I had no real idea how far along I was!

I had my coil removed and we were going to see what happened, so no timing etc, just let nature take its course.
6 week later I was five weeks pregnant, caught 3 days after removal of coil- the only time we had sex! Baby is now 14 years old!!