Early faint BFP - travel advice needed please....!

[chestnut9]

Hey ladies

I got a super faint line yesterday at 13dpo. My period is due tomorrow (Friday), I'm normally a 27 day cycle. I've been cramping a fair bit and had a bit of brown spotting so I'm thinking AF may arrive and that this may well be a chemical pregnancy - have had two already in 8 cycles of TTC.

So my question is... I live in Berlin and am due to fly to London tomorrow for a busy day of work meetings. If you were in my shoes would you cancel and rest instead? Is there any chance that rest can improve the chances of a pregnancy surviving? Or do you think what will be will be and activity/stress levels make no difference?

Super grateful for any words of wisdom..... thanks! xx

You are quite early along in the pregnancy so I would attend the work meetings in London

I don't think that kind of thing will be a factor in pregnancy survival or not so personally I would go.

I'm really sorry that you keep having these early losses. At this stage short of seriously harming yourself there is nothing you can do to change the outcome. Even with a bit of spotting, the odds are still very in your favour that this will be a successful pregnancy, but if not it won't be anything you did or didn't do. Good luck and tentative congratulations!

I had brown spotting and cramping at around the time my AF was due too the day after I had a faint line, never had it before on my other babies and thought it was a chemical or another miscarriage. I'm now 21 weeks so it could be just implantation. Best thing is try go about your normal plans but if the bleeding gets heavier or the pain worsens then cancel but sometimes distraction is the best thing. It can be a 8 weeks to get to the 12 week scan 😊

Long 8 weeks

Ok great, many thanks for the replies. I just read somewhere that sometimes women with threatened miscarriages are put on bedrest. But I guess it's much more like to be a chromosomal thing anyway if it is a chemical and therefore rest/activity makes no different.

Good to have the reminder that there's really not much we can do this stage to change outcome.... so easy to convince yourself it's something you're doing wrong! x

Ha yeah thanks summerloving you're right about distraction actually! Blood long eight weeks I bet.... every day chalked off feels like a week. This summer is seeming ridiculously long already

Sorry you’ve been through the mill Chestnut9, I think the pp are right that you should carry on as normal as nothing you do/don’t do at this stage will influence things.

Fingers and toes crossed it’s just a bit of spotting

Thanks! Did another test this afternoon and the line was a tiny bit stronger I think so am keeping everything crossed... x