Getting so disheartened TTC

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Hi everyone, just here for a whinge really I hope you don't mind!

I'm getting so down about TTC, I'm due my period tomorrow and I'm pretty sure it's coming, making the next cycle number 13. It's just so disappointing every time and I don't know why it isn't happening for us. We are both 27 and have a 4.5 year old. We aren't smokers or drinkers and live relatively active lifestyles.

The longer it takes the more I worry about the age gap - we also moved to a 3 bed house earlier in the year in preparation of a growing family and that spare room is just languishing with baby stuff of DS' that we have kept (cot/toys/clothes/bouncer etc.)

I feel like everybody around me is getting pregnant. I work in HR at work and feel like I'm constantly processing mat leave requests.

It might sound dramatic but it feels like it will never happen. I know we should probably make a GP appointment but it feels like admitting defeat!

For those who have been trying a while, how do you manage the disappointment? Thanks for reading my moan if you got this far!

Hi.
Don't really have any advice but I'm with you! Been TTC#2 for almost 18 months now. DD is 3 and I too feel like time is running out. I'm 26, DH 27 and we don't drink/smoke and we are a healthy weight.
We went to see our GP after a year a got initial tests done (semen analysis and ovulation blood test - both came back normal). This is as far as the NHS will go for us but it has given me a bit of piece of mind. I know there could be other issues but I feel now that I've done all I can. Now going to just try to relax if that's possible! But I totally understand the feeling of desperation and disappointment. Wishing you good luck and hope you get that BFP soon.

Hi,

AF is due any minute now which will take me over the 12 month mark of TTC #1. Me and DH have agreed that we will have to go to the doctor for testing now in the hope we will have some answers rather than have the constant disappointment every month.

I'm 32 and at the age where most of my friends are having babies and whilst I really am happy for them hearing the news also makes me want to cry, does that make me a terrible person?!

Sorry to hear you are going through the same thing, it's awful isn't it!!

Hi both thank you for taking the time to reply. Although it's rubbish it's nice to know you're not alone. TTC can feel like you're the only person in the world struggling with it at times when obviously there are countless people going through the same thing.

DS asked today when he is getting a sister because his friend at pre school has just got one so when is his coming! :(

Fingers crossed for us all.