Reassurance - ttc

[Em171988]

Hi I am new to this and this is my first post. I have PCOS and been trying for around 7 months. I’ve been tracking my periods and they range between 27 and 33 days except for this month I am on day 53. Taken a few tests and all BFN’s so think a cruel rogue month. I know I haven’t been trying that long but I am finding it quite difficult - my best friend is pregant with her second child after just doing the deed once, and my sister in law got pregnant within 2 months with her new bf (DH and I married just over 12 months ago and was so stressful wanted to give ourselves a break before Ttc straight away). I feel like I am just being a rubbish friend, wife and sister in law. I guess I just wanted some reassurance that I am not going mad :-( DH is patient and great but we have been arguing more than usual. Some days I am ok and really positive and then others I am really upset and find it really hard. I just wanted some ideas on how to remain positive without getting my hopes up, and to not be too negative but realistic that it may not be that straight forward for us?

Sorry I know this is rambling - thanks for reading xxx

What you're feeling is unfortunately pretty normal. I blame our education - have sex without protection and you WILL get pregnant, instead of, you might but probably won't... it's very very average for it to take a year... 80% will get pregnant in 12 months with regular unprotected sex.

You mentioned pcos. What is your weight like? That's the first thing a doctor will discuss. You bmi ideally should be below 25 but must be below 30 if you want help on the nhs. Weight can also cause infertility and people with pcos are told that even losing 5% of your weight can improve fertility and help get cycles more regular...

Thanks for your response - my rational part of my brain knows this, I think that’s why it is so hard but I suppose I can to help my feelings .

My BMI is 27ish - I started a diet about a month ago though and people at work have commented that I look like I have lost some weight, so I’m wondering if that is partly the reason for my longer cycle?

Anyway I’m going to keep going and see if I can lose a bit more, and do some exercise too - haven’t been weighing myself yet as didn’t want to put too much pressure on myself on the scales xxx