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Dealing with jealousy

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disneyhopeful17 · 09/07/2018 14:40

Hi Guys,

I'm looking for some confirmation that I'm not the only one.

Hubby and I have been ttc and are now on c10 over that time we have heard of lots of friends and family getting pregnant and.I have been happy for them all.

over the weekend I got told a close family member is pregnant with baby #2 and for the first time my first emotional reaction was a stab of jealousy. I am happy for her and I will love her baby as much as the others when the time comes but I am so ready for my turn and I wish it was me.

needed to get it off my chest as I feel guilty that my first response was not joy for her.

Thanks for responding xx

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iforgotwhatiwasgoingtosay · 09/07/2018 15:29

I am finding it exactly the same! Its so hard as I am the support net for most of my friends, I am on cycle 11 and really struggling, my best friend has been with her boyfriend 2 months and last week said she thinks she might be pregnant so come to my house to do a test and that if she is shes so scared to tell her mum and boyfriend! It was negative but all I could think about was how this is so unfair and how me and my DP are so so ready for a baby and yet it happens so quickly for everyone around me! Sorry feel like i've just jumped on your post for a huge rant! Meh! guess we all have these days :(

MrsMac1489 · 09/07/2018 15:57

I totally feel this. A friend who wasn't even trying to conceive when we had our early miscarriage is now pregnant. Both my hubby and I were equally devastated and horribly jealous. We should be less than a month away from our due date and instead I'm not even regularly ovulating. It's so easy when I'm at work as a midwife, but in my personal life I'm really struggling. *hugs xxxx

seven201 · 09/07/2018 16:11

I think jealousy is a natural reaction and nothing to be ashamed of. It's a feeling and not malicious.

I'm on cycle 7 trying for dc2. I had a miscarriage in March. I know it's still early days and that I'm very lucky to have dd, but I still get jealous when yet another pregnancy announcement is made. I'm always really happy for the couple though.

Trinnidad · 11/07/2018 22:40

I’m with you on this, don’t worry! Seeing friends who have been married less than a year suddenly getting pregnant, days after my brother and his fiancée announced their pregnancy, is the first time I’ve felt it. We have been waiting hoping to upscale from our flat to a house and also because where we live you have to be in your job for 15months to get statutory maternity (so I don’t qualify yet). Hate being held back with these practical things!

InDreamland · 12/07/2018 11:42

It's such a natural feeling to have. DH and I were TTC for exactly 5 years before getting a BFP only for it to have just ended in mc. All these years my feelings of jealously, despair and not wanting to see any pregnant women or hear of any pregnancy announcements or births have got stronger and dare i say it at the moment with the mc so raw i will now be even worse. Don't feel bad for feeling jealous, it's perfectly natural.

kitkatsky · 12/07/2018 12:05

I'm so jealous too. Pretty much the only woman on my team at work who's not pregnant 😢

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