Hope after miscarriage

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I had a mc in February after conceiving first time trying. Since then we have tried 4 times and no luck. My partner is struggling to keep erection now and that’s making us both worry. The thing is I know I need to stop worrying but I am so worried we won’t be able to get pregnant again or that we will have another mc. I am 38, so conscious of time. If there is anything wrong I would prefer to know sooner rather than later. I am fed up of people comments telling me that mc is common, or that I got pregnant very quickly first time so I have nothing to worry about or even that I am expecting too much! Does anyone have any advice on how to move on emotionally from mc or just to stop worrying? I am trying accupuncture, reflexology and hypnotherapy....... I feel so alone. Thank you and love to everyone.

I had a miscarriage at 38 then went on to get pregnant again 8 weeks later. If you know you are /when you are ovulating, it is a matter of timing. Miscarriage is very common, you only have to look on here to know that, you definitely aren't alone. Don't put any pressure on yourselves (easier said than done) and best of luck to you x

Sorry to hear this. I had a miscarriage on my first too, I was 36 now 37 and trying again. It sounds like your stress and worry is now affecting your partner, but that you’re doing the right things with acupuncture etc which will all help. You could also try a couple of counselling sessions - really helped me get over bad experiences in the past. You’ve plenty of time and you will get there :) x

Hello, thank you so much for your kind words. I never expected a miscarriage to affect me like this and the longer it takes to get pregnant the more frustrating it is. But you are completely right, I do need to relax. Do you mind me asking a personal question, please don’t answer if you do. But I keep hearing conflicting advice on the frequency you should have sex during the ovulation period. From your experience should it be every day or every other day? I have been monitoring using clear blue. Thank you xx

@melamine I wish you all the best with your future pregnancy too- You are right I think I do need to try some counselling- I have tried theta healing in the past for other stuff and cannot recommend it more highly. Sending you lots of orange (for fertility) love x

SMEP is recommended after miscarriage - I have had three.
Sex every other day from day 8 until positive OPK then daily for three nights then miss a night then one last try.

@mydcaremarvel thank you so much. I feel so much better with a plan! I am going to try that next cycle. I had never heard of it, despite a million google searches. I am so sorry to hear about your MC’s,that must have been really tough, I am struggling with one let alone three! i find that people don’t mention that they have had a mc, apart from my best friends. Yet I am really open about mine and then people really open up to me about theirs. I hope that the more normal it becomes to talk about it, the more supported women will feel. Or maybe that’s just my experience. Anyway my heart goes out to anyone struggling to conceive. Thank you xx

I think given the worry you’re experiencing, just try to have sex every other or every third day up to/during ovulation. Good luck x

Thank you, am sorry as well, one or three it’s a horrible thing to go through

You may want to join this thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3289857-Who-s-trying-SMEP-this-month?pg=1&order=

@mydcaremarvel thank you, I will join x

@melamine thank you, I wish you lots of fertile luck too. Have a lovely evening x