Need some none judgemental ears to rant to, pregnancy announcements everywhere!!

[Iswallowtoothpaste]

We lost our baby last month, 9+3 but surgeon thought I was further on. Now thinking it could’ve been slapped cheek as DD was diagnosed with it last week but we’ll never know. 3rd M/C, 2nd one in a row (blessed with BEAUTIFUL DD)

During the last three weeks, 8(!!) of my friends have announced they are pregnant, 4 of them are due on the same day I would’ve been and the rest are within a week of that date.

I’m so happy for them all but also feel quite sad, we should’ve been announcing our happy news too .

Feels like life is massively trying to rub my face in it all. I don’t begrudge them, I don’t hate them, im not even jealous I’m just so, so sad and the worst part is that I can’t talk to anyone because I don’t want anyone to feel bad for being pregnant.

Don't worry you are not on your own feeling that way. I'm so sorry about your miscarriages that obviously makes the announcements that much harder too. I also have DS but struggling since him. This year 4 very close family members all announced and due within a month of other. Like you I just hope I don't hear anyone else close being pg which is no one's fault but makes me feel so sad and crap that it's not our turn yet. And then there's DS asking every now and again where's his baby brother or sister. It's very tough! But since signing up to these boards I've found them to be a great outlet and understanding from similar ladies. Best wishes I really hope you announce great news very soon 🤞💕

Thank you @Angelmiracle. Nice to know I’m not on my own. So hard to explain these feelings of being happy for the but sad at the same time.

Yes, DD’s best friend is going to be a big sister soon and of course I’ve had the questions. Before we got the bad news, we used to look at each other and giggle when she asked us if she could have a baby brother or sister. Now it makes me want to well up.

People keep saying ‘it’s about time you had another one isn’t it.’ I actually took to Facebook to try and explain to people that we are trying for a baby but have had losses whilst doing so.

People say things so innocently and I don’t want to be one of those people you can’t say anything to without me finding fault with it but I feel like saying that I’d be expecting my 4th baby now if I hadn’t lost 3!!

Sorry to hear your sad news Even without your experience I feel jealous when people announce their pregnancies. Fingers crossed for a rainbow baby for you soon x

Sorry to hear your sad news. Myself and DH have been trying to conceive our first now for 2 years and nothing and I get so upset and emotional every time I hear a pregnancy announcement or about a baby being born. I am extremely happy for all my friends however I think my jealousy kicks in and I wish I had what they do. Fingers crossed for a happy announcement from you soon ❤️

@kitkatsky, it’s awful. The thing is, literally no one I know has announced that they’re pregnant for ages then the last few weeks it’s been like boom, pregnancy announcements everywhere!! Another one this morning, 3 days after my due date 😫 I’m not even jealous I’m just upset. Feels like it’s worked out for everybody else but not for us. Really sucks.

@tracie77, it took us 2.5 years to conceive the one we just lost. Don’t give up hope, I know it didn’t end well for us but I believe that if I hadn’t contracted slapped cheek then all would’ve been fine. It’s such a strange feeling. Don’t get me wrong, we’re so, so lucky to have DD by a little brother or sister would been the icing on the cake.

My sister-in-law is coming around to reveal the gender of her baby. It's a month today I miscarried early and I can't do it. It's horrific. You want to be happy for them, but your own loss and grief just takes over it x

@Jenstro20 I’m so sorry 😢 that must be really hard. At least when it’s just an announcement on Facebook you aren’t confronted with it face to face. But that’s really having it rubbed in your face. Hopefully we all get some good news soon and this will be a distant memory

I've told my husband I can't do it right now. I can't have it right in my face like that. There is no malice their side, they have a right to be happy and want to share their journey, but I've got to think about my own mental health and hopefully he can make them understand. So I'm going out for the evening. Hopefully good news coming our way soon lovey x

Sorry about your miscarriages. I’ve been trying for my first for 3 years and had a ruptured ectopic during that time. So many people I know are now onto thier second, third baby’s in that time. Happy for them but it breaks my heart too ❤️

Jenstro20 sounds like you’re doing the right thing 💐 sorry for your loss

Totally understand @Iswallowtoothpaste I've had 2 losses now my last one I was clueless until my 12 week scan at over 13 weeks and was told my baby had died. Had to go into hospital and it was just dreadful won't bore you with details but I was mistreated. My best friend is due to give birth any day and yesterday I had to leave work I just couldn't be around her any longer whilst everyone gave her presents and talked about babies. My Instagram is also full of scan pictures I've even deleted people just because I can't face it. Praying for 3rd time lucky. Hugs and thoughts to you but how yoir feeling is totally normal xx

xJune88 so sorry 💐

@NoNotheresnolyrics sorry to you too 😘 it's bloody awful and it makes me so angry how they say it's not common at all and it really is!! Xx

Sorry your going through this... xxx