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Pregnant with 5 month old

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Leobynature · 29/06/2018 09:51

I am devastated and in complete shock.

I’m in my 30s with a baby who is 5 months old. I found out today that I am pregnant. My period is late which never happens. I thought I would take a pregnancy test thinking it would be negative, I had some old ones left over and it’s positive.

I have been on the pill ffs and I had to try to get pregnant with DD for 5 months. I’m scared all my friends will disappear as I’m the only one in our group with a baby. My DD is a novelty really- I know this is a stupid thought.

I have got no money and I can’t cope. I embarrass to tell people at work. I don’t know what to do.

I don’t even know how far gone I am. I have been drinking alcohol in the sun and I haven’t even taken folic ? tablets. My manager is not going to be happy.

I am considering h a termination but I’m 35 next year I will also be devastated if I have an abortion and I can’t get pregnant again. Shit, I also live in a 2bed house and there is no where to put a baby.

Sorry this post probably makes no sense. I am shitting myself.

I also would hate to push around those twin buggy things 😩

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Leobynature · 29/06/2018 09:53

This post reads like English is not my first language with the amount of grammar mistakes but I assure you I am an educated woman.

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Aprilshouldhavebeenmyname · 29/06/2018 09:55

Congratulations!! I have 2 ds's with 14 months apart!!
Make a bedtime routine priority now and the new baby will be a lot easier during the night.
With a bit of tweaking I had both having a nap the same time!
You can reuse the stuff you already have, get a sling if you don't want a big double buggy, though second hand won't skint you so much - and easy to get around if you do!

lolacola13 · 29/06/2018 10:46

The shock will wear off and u will go into organized warrior mama mode and it WILL be ok . I promise u. You won't have to buy much for the baby and your boss CANNOT fire u.. if u aren't entitled to maternity pay as it's still so soon u can claim maternity allowance... you also will get a higher rate of child tax credits and child benefit will come too for the second baby. No one is going to starve and those babies will grow up to the best of friends.. also the baby can stay in your room for the first year and then share a room with his/her sibling . I promise u it's going to be ok in the end my sweets . At 35, you are so so blessed to have two children so close together , I wish wish wish I hadn't of left such a huge gap between my kids and I'm now struggling to conceive my 3rd , bug hugs hun . Just try and focus on u. Get some folic acid and don't worry about drinking . I was inebriated the weekends before I found out I was preg. Just let the dust settle before u start organizing yourself , that mama instinct will kick in after the shock has wore off and you'll organizing your thoughts and practical things just fine . Xoxoxox

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Leobynature · 29/06/2018 11:51

Thanks both. I’m can’t stop m thinking about it. I want to run away

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Dragongirl10 · 29/06/2018 11:54

Do you have a partner OP?

Take a few deep breaths, it is l assume early days? You still have choices so take time to absorb the shock...

Muffin7 · 29/06/2018 13:28

I have two children, 11 months apart, youngest is 15months old and I'm pregnant again (all planned), hopefully that goes some way to show you it is absolutely workable. An unexpected pregnancy is obviously a shock, but take a few days to really think things over, talk to somebody you trust and hopefully you will smooth things out in your mind.

Regarding losing your friends, if they choose not to socialise with you as you have kids then that's their loss. I have lost touch with a few of my friends since having kids, but I'm not losing any sleep over it.

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Leobynature · 29/06/2018 15:57

My other half is in shock too and I think he is worrying about how we will cope.

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adoggymama · 29/06/2018 16:15

@lolacola13 'Warrior Mama Mode' I love that!Star

lolacola13 · 29/06/2018 17:30

@adoggymama ah thanks lol xo

Desmondo2016 · 30/06/2018 13:56

Just see it as a really fucking difficult year ahead that you can and will get through and then you'll have 2 gorgeous kids close in age who entertain each other and you will be able to sit and drink gin while they get on with it and you'll wonder what you were ever worried about.

Desmondo2016 · 30/06/2018 13:57

Also an educated woman despite the complete lack of any punctuation or grammar in my last post Grin

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Leobynature · 01/07/2018 23:15

I came back to visit. Im considering a termination, I’m going to call tomorrow and see how far gone I am first.

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Ceebs85 · 01/07/2018 23:23

I will have a 14 month gap when this baby is born, DM me if you like and we can panic together or you can live through me to see what it's like when baby 2 is born.

Its a shock and it's very fresh. Try not to even think about decisions for a few days just let the news sink in. We weren't trying either and we are not ready but it is what it is. I feel very lucky. Things will be bloody hard in terms of money, space, strain on relationship etc BUT there are many advantages of having babies close together (so I'm told Confused)

Itistime · 02/07/2018 09:16

i am sorry you are experiencing this.

i have lost many friends due to having children but my children and a few friends have become my world and i wouldn't have it any other way.

just a word of caution - please dont make any permanent decisions in a temporary state of shock. you have options yes, but weigh up all you pros and cons

xx

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