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Early pregnancy, cramps and going back to work

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weloveheyduggee · 28/06/2018 17:24

My GP is away on holiday so I can't get advice from them for another week, and feeling anxious so just wanted to ask for advice here first. I've been off work for 2 weeks, and in that time found out I'm PG (5 weeks) with much wanted DC2. I've had lots of cramps and lower back pain, and get shooting pain in my side if I stretch. Is that normal?

I work part time but in a very physical job, 8 hours on my feet, lots of heavy lifting and stretching etc. I'm so worried about going back to work next week, I don't know how to approach it. Was thinking of going to HR department to get a risk assessment done early. What are my rights if I feel I just need to take time off? I read somewhere I can't get SSP if I'm part time.

My background which will explain my anxiety- first pregnancy MC at 12 weeks, had to have EMPC and tests etc. Had 3 near misses with 2nd pregnancy between 10-15 weeks. Basically 3 large bleeds, the first of which I thought was a miscarriage. Bleed in between too, had to have a scan after each one, they never got to the bottom of it. I was signed off work, told by my GP not to to bend, stretch or lift. 'Light dusting no hoovering' were the words used! By some miracle the pregnancy continued fine after this although I was on edge the whole time. And now I feel the same all over again. Just want to try and take it easy and not put strain on my body. I've got a toddler now so as much as I try to get him to be independent I still have to sometimes lift him and carry on at home. But work, or carrying on as normal at work, seems like something I could avoid.

I'm rambling now, but I want to know if anyone has been through similar or if I'm being over- careful. Would work have to support me? TIA

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weloveheyduggee · 28/06/2018 18:43

Bump?

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Wames90 · 28/06/2018 19:09

Hey, it sounds like you’ve been through a lot so I don’t blame you for being over cautious! Have you got a local EPU that you could maybe call for some advice? They probably wouldn’t be able to provide a sick note but could tell you if the symptoms that you’re experiencing are to be expected.
I had cramps and lower back pain the week after I had my positive and I read that it was common due to everything stretching and moving about, as long as it didn’t come with heavy/ red bleeding.
Is there not another GP at your doctors surgery that you could see or a walk in clinic close by? Is the dad still in the picture so could support you with your anxieties? I’d definitely get a risk assessment done at work as soon as you can once you’re back in so that you know what you should and shouldn’t be doing.
I hope this helps a little.

weloveheyduggee · 28/06/2018 19:53

Thank you so much for replying! Yes I'm sure it's just things moving and stretching but I just panic about every twinge. I hadn't even thought about contacting an EPU, I'll do that. I want to talk to my GP because he's been through everything with me and will understand best how I'm feeling. Yes my DH is around, I haven't discussed it with him because he has depression and I don't want to put more on him. I know I probably should though. It sounds crazy but I'm just trying to forget I'm pregnant, but it's hard. TMI but I'm checking myself for blood every time I go to the loo, it's ridiculous. Will go see HR next week, they're pretty good actually. Cheers Smile

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Wames90 · 28/06/2018 20:16

No problem, it must be hard when it’s in the back of your mind constantly. That makes sense about your GP, hopefully the twinges settle and you can have less worry until you can get an appointment to see them. Obviously you know your husband the best and how he is likely to react but sometimes sharing a worry makes things seem slightly less overwhelming.
Is there anything you can focus on that’s coming up to try to take your mind off the pregnancy worries? Like a holiday or something?
I was definitely with you on the checking to start with in case anything was going wrong but I soon got over the panics and stopped doing it. I hope this pregnancy goes well for you and you manage to speak to someone about it to settle your anxieties ☺️

weloveheyduggee · 28/06/2018 20:47

Thanks you've been so kind and you've helped put my mind at rest a bit. I will phone to the EPU tomorrow for advice then have a chat with DH, I'm sure he's worrying too and neither of us want to say it out loud! Then I know I'll have a good chat with my GP next week. Have a good evening Smile

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