Pregnant after miscarriage... how to stop worrying?!

[CobaltRose]

Hi everyone.

My first pregnancy sadly ended in a missed miscarriage and subsequent ERPC back in April. I was 12 weeks and it was utterly heartbreaking.

On Tuesday I discovered that I was pregnant again. It's very early days (I was only 9DPO when I found out) but we are both ecstatic.

However, I must admit that having a previous loss has taken some of the joy out of this pregnancy and I'm constantly worrying about having another miscarriage. Every ache or twinge I'm worrying, every time I go to the loo I'm checking for blood. AF is due on Saturday and for some reason I panic that she will turn up, even though she obviously won't!

I am so so happy that I'm pregnant again, but also so scared

Has anyone else had a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage? Really needing a hand hold right now

I have. I don't think the worry ever really goes, it just gets a bit less as time goes on. I had a miscarriage at about 8 weeks in my first pregnancy. I didn't make a midwife appointment until I'd passed that point when I got pregnant again and got a (gentle) telling off from the midwife for leaving it so late. I now have a nearly 2 year old.

I'm 12 weeks pregnant and the old worries have returned, I've been constantly looking up private scan prices but didn't want to pay to be told bad news, checking % chance of miscarriage at each stage and googling every niggle and symptom but I have my scan tomorrow and keep telling myself there's more chance of everything being ok than not.

Wishing you a healthy pregnancy!

Congratulations!

I had a MC at 15 weeks, it was awful.
Then a successful pregnancy 6 months later. I'm not sure if the worry does go away as Loops said. I had an extra 8 week scan, they (hospital) were nice enough to want to put my mind at ease.

I've no advice to help you relax but statistically another MC would be unusual. Just because it happened once doesn't mean it'll happen again.

We had a huge family emergency just after I found out I was pg and that occupied my whole 1st trimester. I don't recommend that.

Have you considered yoga/acupuncture/mindfulness?

Congratulations!

I had a MC at 15 weeks, it was awful.
Then a successful pregnancy 6 months later. I'm not sure if the worry does go away as Loops said. I had an extra 8 week scan, they (hospital) were nice enough to want to put my mind at ease.

I've no advice to help you relax but statistically another MC would be unusual. Just because it happened once doesn't mean it'll happen again.

We had a huge family emergency just after I found out I was pg and that occupied my whole 1st trimester. I don't recommend that.

Have you considered yoga/acupuncture/mindfulness?

Cobaltrose!
Hello again.
I'm constantly worrying too! I had a chemical before my dd (18months) and have been trying again since she was born pretty much. I had a mc at 6±1 in February, another at 5+3 in March. I'm now prego again, and a little unsure how early/late I am because I hadn't been trying or counting from the last mc.

I just keep hoping day by day. Freaking out and checking for blood even when I don't pee!
I've taken 7 tests in 5 days just to see the line pop up. Freak out every time I get any ache or little tingling feelings. Scared to even tell. Doctor, midwife or even the other half in case I jinx it or something!
I think the fear won't go until the babe is here, or at least until I start feeling those kicks.
Positivity and playing it all safe is all we can do! Here if you need to talk and worry thoughxx

@Emmafh3, hi! waves

Sorry for your losses. I'm trying to take every day as it comes. I've booked an early scan at eight weeks, now I just have to survive the next four weeks without driving myself mad with worry!

So jealous! Mine won't book me in early unless I've had 3 losses
Such good news for you though! 4 weeks, you got this!

I had to book it privately, as my local hospital wouldn't book me in unless I'd had three miscarriages too. £89, but totally worth it to see bean ❤

Oooh now there is an option! Absolutely anything is worth it for that! That little fluttery heartbeat is best.
Let us know for sure how it goes in 4 weeks?! X

Oh, I definitely will! I'll make sure to get pictures too ❤ Cannot wait. I'm already getting a lot more symptoms than I did with my last pregnancy (already feeling very sick, but I don't mind!) so I'm hoping that's a good thing.

Oh, I definitely will! I'll make sure to get pictures too ❤ Cannot wait. I'm already getting a lot more symptoms than I did with my last pregnancy (already feeling very sick, but I don't mind!) so I'm hoping that's a good thing.

Download a pregnancy app which gives you daily facts and stats.... i had a pregnancy following a v early MC and it definitely gave me something positive to focus on as the days and weeks ticked by 😊

No advice as not there yet myself (🤞) but as we were on the same miscarriage topics in April I just want to say massive congrats! ❤️

Congratulations!
I lost four, and went on to have four. Sadly, I would say that miscarriages robbed me of the innocent joy of pregnancy that those around me seemed to enjoy.

But... eye on the prize. It's something we can't control so head down and try not to think about it too much (or completely obsess like I did).

Sending you unmumsnetty hugs.

I was very much the same. My first pregnancy was a miscarriage and the second I found really hard. However, i now have a healthy almost 3 year old :)
Countdown to your early scan

I was in your situation, MMC with my first finally discovered at 11 weeks and I had to have medical management.

Got pregnant again two months later, honestly I'd like to tell you it got easier at some point but It didn't for me. I didn't let myself believe I would have a baby until she was born and in my arms. I just saw pregnancy as something to get through.

Having said that my little girl is now nearly 15 months old and my second pregnancy actually had no major issues. Good luck with everything