TTC after 2 miscarriages. I need your inspirational stories please ladies!

[Iswallowtoothpaste]

So, after a M/C in late 2015 (5-6 weeks) after having our beautiful DD in August 2013, I FINALLY fell pregnant again in April this year. Boy was I anxious, a scan at 7 weeks showed that every thing was fine for where I was at and I tried to relax. At around 10 weeks, I started to spot lightly and went in for a scan just over a week ago now. Unfortunately, there was no HB and our much loved, wanted and longed for baby had died around a week previously. They called it a missed miscarriage and I had to go for a D&C last Thursday. This last yea has been absolutely shit for us for a number of reasons, we truly thought this would be our fresh start but obviously our bad luck wasn’t quite done with us.

The range of emotions we’ve been through over these past couple of weeks have been intense to say the least. We don’t know why our babies died, still reeling from it all to be honest and trying to make some sort of decision as to whether to even bother trying again.

I want to, eventually and luckily, OH is of the same opinion. But not just yet.

I was wondering if anyone had any positive stories to spur us on (and anyone else in the same situation)

Sorry to hear of your losses
I had my first MC in Aug 2014, it was a missed MC found on early private scan at 9 weeks. Medically managed a recovered ok.
Decided to wait until summer 2016 TTC again due to other life issues.
Fell pregnant June 2017 but had an early MC at 5.5 weeks.
Am currently 39 weeks pregnant and eagerly awaiting the birth of my baby.
Like you we never found a reason for our losses and just had to try to keep positive that we would have a successful pregnancy.
Good luck, lots of support on these boards.

summer1986 that’s wonderful! Hopefully baby will be with you soon! This weather is wonderful but difficult to enjoy when you’re so heavily pregnant!

With my first pregnancy, I had a missed miscarriage in April. I didn't find out until my 12 week scan. Went in thinking I'd see a healthy baby, only to be told there was no heartbeat.

Yesterday I got my BFP. It's still very very early and I'm utterly terrified, but I can only hope this little one sticks!

Good luck to you, and I'm sorry for your losses

So sorry for your losses

We had DD1 in 2012 when I was 39 and didn't plan to have more. But then, as often happens, we fell in love with the idea of having another child and a sibling for our beautiful girl. We were devastated to experience two Mmc's in 2014 and 2015, both at around 10 weeks, and thought our time was up. Similarly to your experience, we had seen a strong heartbeat at 7 weeks the second time which was such a cruel blow.

Anyway at the ripe old age of 43, and after we had given up all hope, we found out we were expecting another baby. DD2 is now nearly two years old and I count my blessings every single day.

I hope that life gets a little brighter for you and that you get the happy ending that you deserve. In the mean time, keep taking care of yourself and allow yourself the time you need to grieve.

@CobaltRose I remember you, was so upset for you when I heard that you’d lost your baby. Hoping this one sticks like nobodies business, it’s so scary being pregnant after a loss, I completely get that.

@Backtothenorth 2 MMC’s must’ve been terrible 😢. I’m still pretty shell shocked after one. I just love that you went on to have DD2. Gives me so much hope!

Today should’ve been my 12 (but 13) week scan 😢 we should’ve been so happy and shouting our news from the rooftops. Why us again?! Just why?

So sorry for your losses
I had three miscarriages before having DS2 and it was a truly shitty time for me.
You could see if your gp could run some standard tests - for blood clotting or thyroid issues as a starting point? Turned out I had undiagnosed under-active thyroid and once my hormones were sorted I successfully carried ds2 to full term with no issues.
Wishing you all the best, I know how sad and bleak you must be feeling.

Sorry, didn’t mean to end my messsge on such a downer. It’s hard but there’s always hope xx

I should have been 20 weeks today - it’s shit, absolutely shit, I got my period as well a few days ago which has hit me far harder than I thought it would - glad to hear some positive stories, we’re TTC baby no. 1 after a mmc, honestly can’t ever imagine myself being a mum but trying not to give up hope

I’m so sorry for the horrible time you’re going through right now my husband keeps telling me that you just have to keep trying, because if you don’t you never know, the thought terrifies me, but I know he’s right!

@HeartshapedFox not a downer at all. I carried my DD (2nd pregnancy) successfully and have had 2 MC’s (1MC 1MMC) since. Have been to the doctors and asked if they can run tests but because I haven’t had 3/4 consecutively, they can’t run any tests. So the dilemma is, do we try again, fall pregnant and hope everything goes ok or have another MC and then hopefully have some tests to get to the bottom of this.

@Sophie, I agree with your husband, the first 12 weeks of pregnancy after a MC are absolutely hideous with anxiety and worry. It’s hard but all you can do is hope and pray xxx

@Iswallowtootpaste it’s so wrong that you could potentially have another mc before they’ll do tests :-( Are you over 35? I think it’s ‘only’ 2 then.
I have ds1 who was conceived first try first pregnancy (unbelievably lucky I realise now) so my first mc trying for ds2 was unexpected and hit me hard.

I have had 2 miscarriages (7, and 10 weeks respectively) over the age of 35. Told no investigations until three in a row, even though the NICE guidelines do say that you should be referred if one is ten weeks plus and, in effect, observed to be ‘normal’ via a scan prior to this point.
Here’s hoping there will be no need to get to investigations for a third.....

I’m only 25 ... and have had a healthy pregnancy in between MC’s with no issues.

It’s bloody awful, I feel as though if I do get pregnant again then I’m ‘sacrificing’ that baby just to have tests to see what’s wrong.