Trying for baby 😢

[Anon20something]

Hi girls, just needed to get this out and hoping (although wishing we weren't!) that someone else feels the same and it isn't just me. Anyone else finding days like today, Father's Day, really difficult? We've been trying for 6 months with no luck yet, and days like today just feel hard. Wishing it was our turn, just want to experience that kind of love like I see my friends and others posting of their partners and their little ones 😢 There's just something missing for us 😢

Aww big hugs

I tried 8 years for my eldest had 6 years fertility treatment every mother’s day I’d feel empty cheated was worse

I lost my youngest daughter at 5 months pregnant to sepsis 3 years ago and I’m not sure should I get my husband her daddy a card each year or let it slide what’s the right thing to do ?

Tru focus on other things I found when I hit a new job moved house and had an IVF appointment a adoption meeting my whole be all and end all for havhng a baby went and I fell pregnant
She’s now 22 and has 3 children and I have an 18 and 13 year old too

Just try make a life and try not to over focus xx

Yes I find father and Mother's Day shit. I find Facebook shit because it's all baby photos. A lot of life is shit when you can't start the family you want. 6 months isn't long in the ttc world. You are only slightly more likely to be pregnant than not. Lower your expectations...

We are going to move this to the Conception topic shortly.

Thinking of everyone who is finding today difficult .

Really 6 months ? Sorry can't be sympathetic we tried 5 years before we had our first, that was heart breaking and no Father's Day / Mother's Day we're not happy d

It's not a competition of who is the most miserable. Days like this can be tough for anyone who wants to be pregnant/have their own child but doesn't/can't, whether they've been trying six months or six years.

Thinking of everyone who is having a tough day.

You will get your chances ...

No it isn't a competition, but realistically the op wouldn't have been a parent by now based on when they ttc. This was originally posted in infertility. The op does not fit the definition of infertile. I think that's what a couple of people reacted to...

I'm not having a go at the op. Days like this are shit. But it was a bit strange to find this in infertility. Again, your expectations just need lowering a bit...

It’s shit after years of trying and ectopics etc.. I’m sure you’ll be fine OP x

No it’s not a competition but 6 months is only 50% chance 1 father’s day missed

Try 8 long long years

for you op

Sorry you have been looking for support and received snarky comments as well.

Hi OP
We have been trying for 6 months too which i know isnt very long and understand why some people are making comments. But i defo cried my heart out when i came on yesterday so i just wanted to let you know your not alone in feeling like this after a short period of time. If anything like me i wanted to wait until after married to have kids and therefore whilst only been TTC 6 months. Ive been ready for a family more than a year. Stay postive!

@anon20something hope you’re okay, keep your chin up and ignore any people who are telling you it’s not valid for you to feel sad. But don’t lose hope, it can and may happen for you. X

Ttc for approx 6 months (since stopping the pill). My last period was 17th May and it's now day 32 of my cycle. My cycle has regulated to 31 days but last month my period was late and started on CD 33. I went on the have sharp pains on my left side and cramps after ovulation and brown spotting at 11&12dpo (4 days before my predicted period). I thought my period was actually going to start..my cramps were very strong but nothing now and AF is due today/tomorrow. I have tested 2 days after this possible implantation bleed and got a BFN(using clear blue digital)

Q1- if you are late one month are you late the next?
Q2- do i have to wait after an IB to test? could I be pregnant still?

It's fathers day today and was hoping to suprise my hubby but instead I have been left disappointed

help please...any stories of hope are welcome!

Take a frer babyboo ckearblue digitals often show not pregnant very early on.

thanks for responding frer?
my period is due tomorrow though so I thought it isn't early..but if implantation happened on thurs/Fri (when spotting) could it be 2 soon to test?

Frer - first response early result , I think you would get a positive tomorrow on a frer if you were pregnant. A frer shows positive at +hcg a clear blue digital at + 25 hcg

Sorry +6 hcg on a frer.

I don’t think people are making snarky comments and trying to be mean. I think they are being realistic. If you are upset now after only 6 months how are you going to feel after a year, two years, a miscarriage, ectopic, stillbirth? You posted this originally in the infertility page, you don’t know that you are infertile yet, chances are you’ll be just fine. But you need to be a little stronger now as TTC can be a tough long road!

I'm sorry for posting this in the wrong area, I only joined the site yesterday to get this out and find a little support... I'm sorry to those I upset 😘 Xxx

Thank you so much for the ladies who posted with a little support too, it really means a lot xxxx

I hope all your journey's end with babies in arms soon 😘

Anon20something I don’t think you’ve upset anyone 😊 hope you conceive soon, keep us updated 😊 xxx

Agree 100000% with everything @nonotheresnolyrics. It can be a tough old road. Better to steel yourself early.

I can relate. Such days like this one are really sad for me and my dh. Especially seeing others with children everywhere. Seeing all those posts on facebook… It's not fair at all. Some of us here desperate for a baby. Meanwhile others don't want them or don't plan to have them. It's just happen. I don't know what to say except "LIFE'S SUCKS". The only thing we can do is try to relax. And don't put things in mind that can stress you out or even mentally disturb you. Ignore things outside and focus on you to conceive. I wish you the best. Hopefully each of us will have BFP. Take care.

I found yesterday really tough. So many Facebook status's saying what wonderful dads their partners make. I feel guilty that I can't do that to my husband. It's my 'fault' we haven't conceived yet so I can't help but feel sad that I can't make him a daddy too. He's wanted children for as long as we've been together (14 years) I wasn't ready until around 4 years ago (finishing uni, getting married etc) and now I feel bad for making him wait before we tried. Mid way through ivf treatment so praying it works this time. Sympathy for all those who struggled yesterday