When to tell DH?!

[babyhopeful2018]

Hi All

I've recently got my BFP on an IC and patiently waiting on clear blue and first response tests coming tomorrow from amazon!

My DH has been very busy working and doesn't get home until 10/11pm and back out to work 5:30am these days.

Looking for advice on when to tell him?! Do I tell him tomorrow night if the tests confirms BFP or do I try and keep it a secret for another week and tell him on Father's Day as a 'Father to Be' gift?! This has been our 5th cycle TTC so he will totally not be expecting it to happen this time.

I love these chat rooms as you can share your good news as it's such a big secret to keep to yourself!xx

It would be nice to keep it as a father day gift but it may be hard to keep it to yourself for that long!

How exciting! I'd be tempted to wait if you think you can manage it and he won't enquire about whether you've tested yet this month in the meantime. What a lovely father's Day surprise for him!

Congrats I would wait until Fathers Day personally ☺️ You could get a card made up and a gift from baby x

Thanks @LetTheChickenSeeTheTikka and @Greendayz

I think I may try and hold out until next Sunday then (if I can) this will be our first child.

Other cycles before I had massive mood swings before AF and DH kept getting as down as me when the witch arrived.

This month however we haven't put pressure on each other and overly trying so as he's been soo busy he won't have realised that AF is due on Sunday (and I've not been feeling emotional or moody)

Can't wait to test and see if the IC was correct xx

Thanks @User0304 xx

That's a lovely idea but doubt I could hold out xx

I’d tell him now. I can see the whole Father’s Day thing but, being pessimistic, what are you going to do if this is a chemical pregnancy? Tell him both at the same time. Tell him now. It’s too big to faff around with.

*tell him both at the same time?

That should have been a question mark

Agree with @PotteringAlong. I gave my dh a baby name book as a birthday present in March '17. Needless to say it sits in the cupboard as a sad sad reminder of what is not to be. Kinda made his bday shot this year too as it's a reminder of how we still aren't pregnant...

Personally I would tell him when you next see him. Whether he is tired from work or not he will be over the moon.

You can still do a little something for Father's Day if you want to.

Never understood the woman keeping it a 'secret' from hubby / partner I mean surely they have as much right to know when you know as you've both been working for this?

If it results in a chemical or a miscarriage then you have their support.

I think my husband would have been quite upset if I had a BFP and waited a week to tell him.

Thanks for the advice ladies......

I think once I've got a bfp in either clear blue digital or the FRER tomorrow I'll tell him.

If I don't then it wasn't meant to be - didn't 100% trust my IC (was something like 20 stick tests for like £5) xx

It's s wonderful idea to wait till Father's Day!! Do it!!
Please ignore the 'what if ' posters grab joy now!
And I'm saying this from someone who has had miscarriages!
Be positive!
Congratulations

Aww I'd love to hear what you decided to do?

Either way is amazing news! But I think wait until Father's Day, it will always be memorable that way :)