Ttc after mmc

[Nm986]

I suffered a mmc at 13 weeks and had an erpc 2 days after finding out at the scan. That was 2 weeks ago today. I still have slight bleeding/discharge - sometimes only when I continue toilet.

I done an ovulation test tonight and it was positive. Could this be because of the hcg still in my system?

I know the Dr advised to have 1 af for dating purposes but I think being pregnant is the only thing that's going to make me feel better.

I went for bloods today and just broke down when the nurse asked how I was.

Thanks in advance xx

Ps completely new to mumsnet and my first ever forum post!

My timeline sounds similar to yours - I’m currently 1 week post ERPC, when I was pregnant I had super strong ovulation test responses, I’d do a pregnancy test too and see what that says, I’m currently getting very faint positives.

I really want to start trying asap but hubby isn’t keen I don’t think anything else will help me get over this feeling of being empty and deflated.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I had no bleeding for the first 2 days after the erpc and I now hate going to the toilet incase I am still bleeding.

I did do a pregnancy test on Tuesday and I had a faint line. I didn't really want to another one and get upset. But you are right...

Am I right in thinking ovulation tests will show positive for hcg and not just for ovulation?

I'm still signed off work this week. Work was really stressful before I had the mmc and if I'm honest I'm quite scared to go back. I have even had nightmares. I feel terrible at leaving my department to pick up my responsibilities but I couldn't go back this week.

I hope you're bearing up ok? Xx

I’ve been bleeding for nearly two weeks now, I started bleeding on the Sunday, had a scan on the Tuesday and ERPC on the Friday, it’s horrible. I can’t even imagine how difficult it must be to deal with the blood with natural/medical miscarriage.

Ovulation tests will show HCG and LH but from the little I know it needs to be a super strong line to be positive for either pregnancy or ovulation, I don’t have any tests at the moment so I can’t do one and tell you what mine shows!

I’m holding up... ok... things are tough, I’m immensely sad and I’m worried about the impact on my husband, he’s found it all very traumatic and I worry that he won’t want to try again for months. This was our first pregnancy so I’m desperate to be a mummy.

I’m hoping to go back on Tuesday, unfortunately I don’t get sick pay so can’t afford to be off longer, you definitely need to give yourself time. I’m so sorry you’ve had nightmares, I’ve been the same, can’t stop replaying certain events and images, it’s reallt really tough, sending you lots of hugs! Do you have support around you? X

It's the toughest experience ever eh?

I hope your husband finds a way to cope. Maybe chat to some of the services out there? I've read a lot on the miscarriage association website that is really really useful. They seem to have a fab phone/email service that he could maybe use?

I am really lucky. I have an amazing support group. My husband is fantastic and it's probably brought us closer. I do worry he doesn't open up enough and that he's just trying to be strong for me but he tells me he's ok. My true friends have been amazing too.

It's work in struggling with the most. I don't really want to speak to my colleagues never mind face them. Work is Such a stressful place that I'm worried it contributed to the mmc in some way which I know it probably didn't.

I done a pregnancy test just there and there seems to be the slightest line still there so maybe that's why the ovulation test was positive :( it's the clearblue digital ovulation kit I have so there is no doubt it was positive. Might get a digital pregnancy test today actually.

I hope you're feeling a bit better today

Hi, I am sadly going through the same thing. Started bleeding Sunday 20th went to a&e. They could only book scan for Friday. So we paid private with the hospital and had scan Tuesday 22nd and was confirmed as mmc. No bigger than 6 weeks and no heartbeat. I should have been 10 weeks +6. Had smm Friday 25th. Bleeding stopped in the last 2 days but still a faint positive. I am desperate to be pregnant again. As you say its the only thing that will make me feel better. My dh wants to try too. This was our first time trying and first pregnancy. So going I get pregnant quickly again. But this time it sticks. I've been so heartbroken. I started back at work yesterday. Just trying to keep busy. Time helps. Also gp recommend headspace. I've been doing it for 6 days. It does help calm me.

Should say hoping* I get pregnant quickly again. Not going...

@Pumpkinpatch000 I am so sorry to read you've had to go through this twice. Big hugs. I really hope you're ok. Most women who have 2 mc's still go on to have a healthy pregnancy. So keep positive.

I am symptom spotting which I know I shouldn't. It's a week since I think I ovulated. So one more week till I will test (unless af comes) I am trying to think positive.

So sorry for your loss. The further along you are when the Miscarriage happens the longer it will take for the HCG levels to fully drop. I would take a pregnancy test to check. I was advised to wait for two cycles before trying again but my gynaecologist did say that after the first cycle it wasn't a big issue if I did fall pregnant. I had a d & c so the reason for waiting was to ensure that the womb lining was back to sufficient levels. He told me that it wouldn't prevent me getting pregnant if the lining was not quite right but that It could affect the actual birth - baby and pregnancy would be fine but it could result in the placenta being more difficult to remove - all could be dealt with though.

I understand your need to fall pregnant again. I am the same. I waited one cycle then husband and I have had unprotected sex a number of times but I didn't monitor ovulation or anything. If it happens it happens.

I too bled for just over two weeks.

This whole process, waiting time, everything totally sucks but we must all try to remain positive. It will happen at some point. Everything crossed for you x

Firstly a massive hug to all of you who have lost. It's just the most horrible experience.

There is a great thread on here with wonderful ladies called ttc after loss. Defo worth jumping in on it. The support for me is unreal. I'm lucky enough to be pregnant again. (So far all going well) so it can happen.

I would defo confirm a BFN. Don't worry about waiting one AF if you're ready to start trying again, but do wait for bleeding to stop and be prepared for the first couple of cycles to be a little haywire. My first cycle I had bfp until about 2 weeks after and even once I got bfn opks didn't work very well for me.

Good luck and I hope you get your happy ending. Xx

Sorry realised I posted in the wrong group last night. Was very tired...

Hi there! I'm in the same boat. My DH & I been trying for 7 yrs. I know that it’s really hard to conceive. When you get pregnant you get so excited… But happiness lasts not so long… I lost it too. It’s sooo heartbreaking. I can’t take the pain... I'm just on the recovery state right now. I don’t have any advice to give to you ladies because I need one too... I'm hoping that I'll get pregnant right away… I dream about this. Also I know that all of you would want this too… It’s a good feeling to know that you are pregnant. Hopefully all of you will have a successful pregnancy next time.