When do you give up....?

[PineapplePrincess]

Honest thoughts please. I have just experienced my 4th miscarriage at 10wks (although baby died at 8+4). This was suppose to be our last attempt, as I've just turned 42 and DH is 45.

My question is, would I be mad to want to try again? Pregnancy has been sent for tests, and I should finally be seen by the Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic after six months of campaigning to be seen.

I have this chain of thought that if they find a cause, that I would be foolish not to treat it and try. Make the losses and the pain worth something.

I'm struggling to understand how to cope without rejoining the TTC wagon again; its what's kept me going these last two years. But also wondering whether it’s time to just call it a day.

@PineapplePrincess I'm so sorry that you're going through this. In your position I'd be inclined to see if a cause can be treated and either keep trying or not go back to contraception and just see what happens. I hope you get some answers soon.

Sorry for your loss

I don’t think you are mad to want to keep trying, so long as you and your husband can handle the stress of it all. If there are still tests and things that could be done then I think it’s better to explore those than stop now and then look back and wonder “what if..?”.