Hi,
We've been trying to conceive coming up to 19months. (currently on TTW cycle 18).
Today we found out - whilst out for lunch for my birthday - that my partners ex, who he has DD with, is pregnant.
I'm totally devastated as is my partner. I'm feeling lots of different things. Guilt, envy, disappointment etc.
I feel so much has been taken away from us being able to tell DD she'll be a big sis and I feel like IF it ever happens for us it'll be old news to her by then. And the comparing "mummy does this" "mummy lets me".
I haven't got my head around it all yet. It's devastating enough hearing anyone is pregnant but this has really affected both of us. We've been trying longer than they have been together which is also frustrating... however we all have a good relationship and on some level I'm happy for them. I feel guilty for feeling this was.
I feel gutted I'll see her regularly getting bigger etc and little one being so excited about it and just thinking why wasn't it me?
Very very selfish head on at the mo...
Has anyone been in this situation or have any wise words that may help?
Any advice welcome ✨