First month TTC but feels a lot longer

[TwinkleBear]

Hi ladies, been a lurker on here a while reading all your lovely posts and thought I'd start a new thread.

DH and I have finally started TTC this month but feeling so anxious because I've wanted a baby so bad for the last 2 years and increasingly more so over the past year, but it was never exactly the right time as our finances weren't great and I needed and still need to lose quite a bit of weight. Countless times AF's been late and I was hoping for a happy accident.

Anyway we finally decided to go for it as things are starting to look up, and I've been praying so hard that it would be a lucky miracle and happen 1st cycle. My periods are somewhat irregular but I have been tracking for over a year, and we started right at the start of my predicted fertile window.

Now estimated to be about 7dpo and although I know it's too early I just couldn't hold out the urge to test and even though I feel exhausted and boobs feel tingly and I feel heavier than normal, it was a BFN.

This TWW is torture, even more so as DH works evenings so I just sit here and drive myself crazy reading everything I can.

Not giving up hope yet as I know there's still at least a week to go, and AF is due around the 16th - 17th, but just thought I'd post and share if there's anyone in a similar boat.

Hello!
I'm due on 16th too and am 10dpo today. Am going to test tomorrow with a FRER even though it is a bit early.
I know what you mean about the tww it's the longest two weeks ever.
I'm fortunate I have aittle one already to make the wait less painful!
When are you going to test next?

I'm going to do my best to wait until the 16th unless my symptoms get a lot more noticeable. I had one test of FRER just sitting on my counter staring at me, so I've bought a few more and am hiding them away so I'm not tempted every time I go for a wee I think if I bought a lot of the cheap ones I'd go insane testing every day, so keeping it to the branded ones for now to stay within limits hahah. Is this your first cycle TTC too?

Having a little one already definitely helps! How long did it take the first time?

I would really suggest to not get into the habit of testing before AF is late. It will save you a fortune. I'm on cycle 13 and have only tested once when AF was late. Also seeing those BFNs can get you down. I'm also 7dpo, good luck

Thanks @LillyLeaf I know you're right! Having the test out on the counter was some sort of cruel self torture. I'm sure I'll be less tempted in future cycles.

SIL also announced her #2 the other day so that's got me extra down.

I'm not sure what's better, being slightly disappointed by early BFN's or going crazy wondering every day lol.

I echo LillyLeaf I wouldn’t get into the habit of testing before af is due. After 20 cycles of ttc, I can tell you that it’s not healthy to get obsessed with testing. Plus you’ll save a tonne of disappointment and money. You can’t know how long you’re going to be ttc for so it’s best to start off with good habits like not symptom spotting in the tww, early testing etc. Good luck

Having said that I only have a 11 day luteal phase so I don't need to wait a full 2 weeks, so I get why people test early. I do Google everything which is my weakness.

Hey ladies hope I can join. This is my first time ttc, I started at the beginning of the year with no luck yet.
I'm beginning to get impatient 😂 but after months of symptom spotting I've decided this month I'm going to chill out and not even look at my ovia app 😂 (I don't think it's that accurate for me anyway)

I use the Clue app but I'm also not entirely sure how accurate it is. It's so hard not to obsess, I really need to try and take it easy and find a hobby of some sort.

@Twinklebear I was terrible at first for obsessing. Think I just need to let nature do it's thing rather then constantly thinking about it but it's harder said then done especially when everyone around you is announcing their pregnancies

Definitely. My SIL just announced her #2 and it was really hard to feel happy for her.

I know how you feel.
But back to the positive vibes... I've got my fingers crossed for us 🤞