Any anxiety sufferers out there?

[TTC7]

Hi guys- so we are on cycle 5 of trying (I don't think it will happen for us this month tbh). I'm literally doing everything possible to help our chances, I'm having zita west pills and maca root x3 a day! I have been for an arvigo maya massage a couple of times (and do it on myself each night as the massage woman told me to). Eating well, exercising etc. After we do the deed, I even lie there with my legs in the air for 10 mins (sorry if TMI). I even say a little prayer every night whilst we are actively trying. I'm now in that awful 2 week waiting period. The thing is, TTC is bad enough, but i suffer with anxiety (and some depression) and not being successful is making it all the more worse. Then it's a vicious cycle because the more I get anxious, the more I think that is making my chances of pregnancy lower. Anyone else suffer with anxiety and have any helpful tips please?

@Lookingforadvice15 i totally empathise and feel like I could have written parts of your post too (I've also been going back to yoga and feel like I have been getting depressed- I just don't feel myself at all at the moment tbh).

Does your sister know that you are TTC? If she is a sympathetic person, do you think it would help if you spoke to her about it so that she understood why you aren't jumping for joy for her maybe?

I'm glad you have also heard good things about acupuncture. I have booked in for my first session next week. Really hope it helps.

It's also difficult because both my husband and I are "planners" and thought I would honestly be pregnant by now. We have just bought our first home. The room next to ours was always supposed to be a nursery. Now all i imagine is that when we move in I'm going to be walking past an empty room each day and it will be a constant reminder that there is no baby in there x

@TTC7 yes she knows im trying and that ive really really been struggling with it as well as my anxiety.

It also brings back a lot of the past. In 2013 when i found out i was pregnant for the first time she found out she was too the following month with her 3rd (planned) there was only 4wks between our due dates. I had been trying at that point for 9mths and almost felt like it stole my thunder a bit. Then i had the mmc which was without doubt the worse thing i have ever been through, then i had to continue on watching her bump grow, while going back to step 1 and ttc again. As i say i was pregnant within 3mths again with my dd but in between that time was horrible.
This just feels like its bring all that back. How ive been trying but it seems to come so easily for her. I feel like there is some resentment there. I did congratulate her but ive also been keeping a distance because its too hard and i would have thought she would have been able to understand that.

I have been looking into positive thinking. It can be really hard when your anxious but i have been saying three positive things each day that i am happy/thankful for. Instead of walking past the empty room and feeling sad walk past it with a smile that you are in your new family home and one day it will be your childs room.

I really hope that it happens for you soon

I'm the same, my anxiety is not good generally but it's through the roof at the moment.

But then I've been TTC for 20 years and on my 5ft ivf attempt. Currently 8dp5dt, positive HPT but started spotting. My heart is pounding out my chest everytime I go to the loo!

@Lookingforadvice15 it's always the way :-( I have so many friends that either got pregnant first time/very quickly or even some where it was an accident. Bar one friend, no one is able to empathise with what it's like truly TTC for months on end.

Re your sister I think just put yourself first. If you don't feel like always being around her (as it's a constant reminder) then I think that is perfectly fine. Your health is the priority and esp when TTC. Then maybe in time, you might be more comfortable in seeing her etc a bit more. Oh gosh the MMC must have been so tough, but thank goodness you were ultimately blessed with you DD.

Yes, I know, someone else said that to me also, positive thinking re the room as I don't want it to become a self fulfilling prophecy. That's a good idea, I might try re the saying 3 positive things. Really good luck to you x

@Mylittlebee1 oh man, that's tough. Try some breathing exercises (they have really helped me) and I'm also defo going to try and get back into meditation. Perhaps try that also if you don't currently meditate? Sending you lots of positive vibes x