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When will it be my turn????

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angelpoppet · 09/08/2004 15:57

I'm feeling a mix of feelings today. My best friend has just rung me to tell me she is pregnant and I am very very happy for her. But at the same time I'm wondering when it will be my turn to share good news with everyone.

She is the 4th person now to beat me in the baby race and I'm starting to feel defeated about the whole thing.

I have an appointment to see a gyne next month to be tested for PCOS, but by the time they have done tests etc it's gonna be months and months before it's my turn.

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Chandra · 09/08/2004 16:19

Don't count on that, I have PCOS and according to my gyn. 1 out of 3 women have them. I fell pregnant at the first try once the treatment started! so, there's hope

DH was so resigned we would never had babies that he actually asked me to stop wasting pregnancy tests when I told him I had got a positive

Chandra · 09/08/2004 16:20

rogue wink there...

angelpoppet · 09/08/2004 16:23

Thanks Chandra,

we already have one beautiful dd who i love to bis - we fell with her soo easily I thought it would be the same this time round.

We have been trying for 8 months now. It seems like such a long time. I had a feeling that my friend would fall. I'm glad she told me as I was upset by my SIL telling us she is expecting last week and it was my friend I turned to for comfort. She rang me straight away though - even before her husband.

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lou33 · 09/08/2004 16:24

I got pg after treatment for pcos as well.

malinki · 09/08/2004 16:24

AP, I have been there, bought the t-shirt, made the video etc etc. I'll tell you about me, I'm 34 years old, have PCOS, Endometriosis and HAD blocked tubes. I was ttc from 1994 (then aged 24) right through to the end of 1995 before I went to the GP. They did the usual things, blood tests, smears and they told me that one of my hormones wasn't playing ball and referred me to a gynie. The first thing the Gynie told me was I had PCOS, then she told me she was going to try and get me pregnant, It took me 5 years to conceieve my dd (who is 4 next week and starting school in September), she was never meant to be, but someone up there must of said I had suffered enough. I had 2 lap & dyes, the 1st one they had to stop as they discovered I had endometriosis, then as I was resting at home after having the 2nd one, my DS turned up and told me she was pregnant and that my DF and DM had discussed with my DS, whether or not to tell me as I was getting depressed, two months later I was pregnant. I know how you are feeling sweetheart believe me and guess what, I'm going through it all again. Whilst I wasn't on the verge of pinching a baby, I certainly wasn't happy everytime one of my friends came over and said the dredded words "I'm Pregnant", of course to their faces as was like "Thats fantastic, when is it due, how do you feel etc etc", then as soon as my front door was closed my DH came over to me and hugged me so tight and kept telling me that our day will come and it will be more special telling people that we are pregnant, because we have really really had to work hard for this baby and its true, my FIL and MIL at the time, got the champagne out. We even got referred to the IVF clinic in Leeds, but didn't need it in the end. The thing is that even when you think your world has been shattered, by those words "Yeah you've got PCOS", remember my story, just don't give up hope, you will be well supported and yes you have to take Clomid, and or Metformin and you'll feel depressed and think that nobody else has or is going through what you are doing, but there is a horizon and you'll get there, once the treatment starts it really up to you what happens, just go with the flow, it might happen sooner than you think!!!

angelpoppet · 09/08/2004 16:53

Thanks so much Malinki, I'm so glad you finally got your baby.

I know my situation is in no way as drastic as yours but as you say - it's so hard to watch everyone around you falling pregnant and trying to pretend your so happy for them.

I'm fairly sure I do have PCOS, it runs in my family so I know alot about it and I have all the symptoms etc etc.

I don't mind having to take drugs or whatever it just all takes so long!!! I'm sure you can sympatc=hise with that feeling too!!!

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hester · 09/08/2004 17:30

Oh, angelpoppet, I feel for you; I'm going through this too. I've been ttc on and off (assisted conception - long story) for a few years now, though only (only!) around 18 cycles of trying. Meanwhile all my friends have had one baby, and most have had two, completed their families and moving on with family life. It's very, very, very hard. Mostly I keep a brave face and successfully act thrilled for them, but the last time it happened I burst into tears, which was horrible for friend and for me . The other thing I hate is when well-meaning friends assure me that it will happen for me, when they don't know that and at this point the odds are looking fairly grim. But they mean well, and I need their support, so mostly I keep shtum. Fingers crossed we'll both have good news to share soon. xx

ebbie22 · 09/08/2004 17:41

I have my fingers crossed for you as I know your heartache only too well,but as everyone else says, it will happen and im sure it will be when you least expect it too..
I too have been trying for 8 months and not sure how many more people telling me that they r expecting I can take,my heart goes out to them for being able to concieve and i know I should count my lucky stars that I was lucky enough to have been given the greatest gift of them all..I have had my ovary and fallipeon tube removed and every month have more and more trouble with a.f..But I wont give up and I really hope you dont too...

Twiglett · 09/08/2004 17:46

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