Tips for coping!

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Hello!
I’m new to this, but struggling and wondered whether anyone else has any advice or tips for coping. I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks in October last year. We’ve been TTC since with no joy. Every month I convince myself my boobs are sore and this must be it. Some more close friends just announced their pregnancy and I just feel heartbroken all over again. Then I feel guilty for not being happy for them! I know lots of people out there have been trying longer and have more difficult stories, but I can’t help it all being so painful. Any thoughts greatly received! X

Hugs!

Sorry for your loss. Also trying to conceive after miscarriage myself and it is really hard when people you know announce their pregnancy. One of my friends is due around the time I would have been.
The only coping mechanism I've found is letting myself have a good cry and try to avoid triggers (which is obviously hard to do). Talking to people about my loss really helps too.

Have you had any counselling? The Miscarriage Association is a good place to read about ways to cope and things like that too, you can even ring them to talk to someone who knows what you're going through.

Re staying chill when trying: I'm not temping or doing ovulation sticks and letting nature take its course, so I can try not to obsess too much. Also a friend of mine had a baby with a heart condition recently and one of my coping mechanisms is every time I find myself over-thinking TTC, I think of her and send her lots of love and healing thoughts to think about something else. Works for me, as a distraction, maybe you could find your own distraction if you find yourself symptom spotting?

Thank you- I think it helps just knowing you’re not alone. I’m certainly having a good cry every time I hear about another friend getting pregnant. It’s so hard to be brave about it.
I may well try the miscarriage association. I’m not sure I’ve fully come to terms it.
Thanks for the staying chill tips. I definitely need to relax about it more!