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Any positive stories after missed miscarriage?

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aj1617 · 27/04/2018 08:21

Hi all.... not sure why I'm writing this! I guess to just prove to myself I'm not alone! We started trying last May.. fell pregnant in Dec & couldn't be happier... found out in jan when I was 10 & half weeks that baby had stopped growing at 6.. so booked in for a d&c... ended up losing it naturally the night before but still had to have d&c for remaining tissue.
We've been trying again since Feb & morning so far... I know it will take time for everything to go back to normal but I can't help but work myself up that's it's never gonna happen. My fiancé is trying to be up beat about everything but I'm really struggling!
Has anyone been through the same/similar & got their bfp?
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WelshMammy123 · 27/04/2018 08:47

Hi,

Firstly I'm so sorry for your loss.

I think you'll find lots of people that have been in the same situation - not that it makes it any less painful when it happens to you but might give you comfort knowing you're not alone.

I had a MMC discovered at 10+2 despite having had a private scan and seeing a heartbeat at 8+2. I had an ERPC.

I fell pregnant 3 months later which sadly ended in a tfmr.

It then took us a year but I'm now 32 weeks pregnant.

Losses are sadly very common but successful pregnancies after loss are also common so you have every reason to feel positive that things will work out next time. Good luck x

Presh12345 · 27/04/2018 12:41

Yes MMC last June at 9+4. First pregnancy. Nothing since. Trying not to give up but at 39, 40 soon, I and help but feel that I'm running out of fertile time!

FutureFairyCrayon · 27/04/2018 13:01

So sorry for your loss. I lost my first to mmc aged 39. I was devastated, and convinced myself I would never have a child. However, shortly after what would have been my due date, I conceived my wonderful DD. I wish you similar luck. Flowers

Whooptydoo1 · 27/04/2018 13:09

Hi! I’m sorry this happened to you, I had 2DC then 2MMC and 2 “normal” miscarriages whilst trying for our 3rd, we now have a happy (mostly!) healthy 9m old, it’s hard not to worry, but there’s lots of support available when you do get pregnant again (which you will as you have conceived before) has your hospital got an early pregnancy unit? Your midwife will also support you, I ended up at the hospital in the middle of the night once because I just had a feeling something was wrong (it wasn’t) and they were so supportive, sadly this happens to a lot of women and the overwhelming majority never find out why, god luck Flowers

Whooptydoo1 · 27/04/2018 13:09

Good luck!

Elmosmum · 27/04/2018 13:38

I'm sorry for your loss, it's just devastating Thanks

I had a miscarriage in July last year at 11+5 days. It was my first pregnancy and I was so upset at the lost chance.

I'd heard that you are more fertile after a miscarriage so we started trying as soon as I'd had my next period and felt mentally able to. I fell pregnant a couple of months later and got my BFP - I'm now 26 weeks pregnant with TRIPLETS Shock

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aj1617 · 27/04/2018 14:10

Thanks girls... do any of you have any advice on how to relax whilst trying? People say don't think about it but how?! It's so hard when everyone around me is pregnant too... I'm trying to not be one of those angry jealous people but its so bloody hard! 😢

And wow triplets?! 😱😱 the biggest congratulations xxx

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Elmosmum · 27/04/2018 14:55

Aww it's going to be difficult seeing other people pregnant Thanks I found that not tracking my cycle quite so closely made me relax more. And DH was more relaxed if he wasn't aware of when my fertile period was. Keep trying and make it fun - best of luck your bfp will be here soon x x

cherrytrees123 · 27/04/2018 14:59

My sister's first pregnancy was like this. She now has two lovely healthy children. Don't lose heart!

Hoppinggreen · 27/04/2018 15:02

I’m sorry for your loss
I got pg 1 week after a mmc, even before my periods returned
It was mentally hard to be honest and I was pg for a year but she’s now 13 and awesome!
I also have a gorgeous 9 year old who I conceived very easily
Best of luck x

Huffkin · 27/04/2018 17:40

Hiya, I'm sorry you're gone through this. Thought I'd share so you don't give up hope. I had a missed miscarriage too, got to 11 weeks and started bleeding and scan showed it had stopped growing at 7 weeks. After I miscarried I fell pregnant the next month and now have a five year old boy. I really hope you get your bfp soon.

Lisalou88 · 27/04/2018 18:52

Hi

I am so sorry for your loss. Our stories are pretty similar as we started trying May last year got a BFP in Nov then found out at my 12 weeks scan in January the baby had stopped growing around 7 weeks. It’s now about 3 months since it happened and I’m terrified I will never get pregnant again.
My husband is also positive that it will happen again but I am still struggling with it and defo can’t relax.
Hearing people with positive stories after MMC is reassuring though and hopefully we get our rainbow babies soon x

CobaltRose · 27/04/2018 19:14

Sorry for your loss Flowers

I also lost my first pregnancy to a missed miscarriage. I was supposed to be 12 weeks but scan showed baby hadn't developed past six weeks. We were utterly devastated, still are.

It only happened just under three weeks ago so it's still very raw, but from everything we've been told there's no reason why I won't have successful pregnancies in future. My doctor told me that it's especially common to miscarry your first pregnancy, but that the vast vast majority of women will go on to have healthy pregnancies. I'm clinging into that Flowers

isitwinetimeyet16 · 27/04/2018 19:19

Didn’t want to read and run. I had a MMC in my second pregnancy - normal scan at 6.5 weeks and saw heartbeat but at 9 weeks scan showed the pregnancy had ended a week or so earlier. I was heartbroken - had an ERPC which helped as I wasn’t waiting for it to pass naturally. I got pregnant again six weeks later and am now breastfeeding my six week old DD so there is definitely hope! Lots of love and luck to all of you trying.

KnitKitty · 27/04/2018 19:28

This thread is wonderful.

Just starting TTC again after miscarriage too and reading these stories is great. Please keep them coming ladies. :)

DaisyMay25 · 27/04/2018 19:31

Hi OP
There's a thread with me and other ladies who are TTC after miscarriages. You are more than welcome to join. It's a nice place to rant when you're angry at the unfair world.

TTC after pregnancy loss Thread 19- More cake for more babies www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3220086-TTC-after-pregnancy-loss-Thread-19-More-cake-for-more-babies

Callamia · 27/04/2018 19:36

I started a miscarriage at 12 weeks, but it was clear that the baby had not got much past 7 weeks. That was about two years ago.

Right now, there’s a nine month old reusing to go to sleep on my lap. We didn’t want to try again straight away, but when we did, it didn’t take too long.

ILikeMyChickenFried · 27/04/2018 19:38

I had 2 missed miscarriages in a row and now have 8m old twins

Katurah · 27/04/2018 19:40

My second pregnancy ended in a MMC. Baby stopped growing at 6 weeks, I found out at 9 during a private scan. I had a D&C which I found very difficult. I had a period 3 weeks later and conceived my DD on my next cycle. Don't give up - I truly believe we get the children we are meant to have when we are meant to have them. My DS took a year to conceive, the baby I lost was the first month of trying. There's just no way of knowing. Good luck to you OP, be kind to yourself xx

Tiberius12 · 27/04/2018 19:40

I found out at 12 weeks last March that the baby had died at 8 weeks and had surgical management. Gave it a couple of months before trying again and conceived on the first month of trying. I have a almost 12 week old snuggling into me right now

MummyItsallaboutyou · 27/04/2018 19:42

I had a MMC in the Oct. All happened naturally and I lost A LOT of blood. I started trying again straight away but think my body was recovering. Decided around the May time to have a break as didn't want to be in the early stages of pregnancy while on holiday. DTD once that month and guess what! She's now 4.

MrsFogi · 27/04/2018 19:44

I'm sorry aj. I had a MMC on my first pregnancy 14 years ago. It took another year to conceive DS1 but I now have lovely (big) dcs. I do have a little sad thought on what would have been the due date every December but also believe that my body made a decision about that baby and I accept that.

TheMotherOfBears · 27/04/2018 19:45

I had two mmc and am now bfing a lovely squishy baby. Lots of love and baby dust to you OP and others trying after MC - it's tough. Flowers

Mrsfw · 28/04/2018 16:23

Hi OP so sorry for your loss, I also had a MMC at 10 weeks in Feb, it’s really hard isn’t it. It was my first after 5 years of TTC and my 8th IVF cycle. Am gearing up for my next one in June & keeping my fingers crossed. I really hope you get another positive soon. Good luck xx

Alwayslumpyporridge · 28/04/2018 21:07

After my MMC I didn’t ovulate for ages, I think the d&c messed up my cycle or something but I would recommend checking for ovulation, try a agnus castus supplement

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