When should I start trying for second baby!?

[Gardenfullofroses]

Hi,
I’m wondering if anyone can give me some perspective. My husband and I are ready to start trying for baby no. 2 but are considering when would be sensible to start trying. We are both in our 30s but got pregnant first time with baby no. 1.
I have a 30 day cycle & started my period today so thinking if we start trying after this period we could potentially have a January baby... or wait till next month and potentially have a February baby.
The thing is - my husband and I are currently weighing up pros and cons of January/February babies. Are we being crazy thinking it will happen just like that again!?
Do we just got on with it as it probably won’t be that easy second time round or are we being sensible looking at due dates!?
I kind of want to just get on with it but waiting another month could mean I loose a bit more weight and the baby’s birthday will be further away from Christmas...
But also don’t want to wait then it take ages so kick myself for waiting.
What are you experiences on trying to ‘time things’?
First time we just started to have fun (wanting a baby) and if happened so planning this time is new to us.
Thanks ladies x

I think that's different though, Euphrasia. It's perfectly sensible to wait until a major disruption is out of the way. It's a bit different to be seriously debating the pros and cons of January Vs February as birth
month as though you can plan it that precisely.

@iwantaunicorn how lovely that you had twins!! A double blessing.

Were colds and flus much of an issue by Feb?

@gardenfullofroses thank you, they are defo a double (unexpected!) blessing! I only got one utterly miserable cold over Christmas, other than that I was fine, and the babies were right as rain and haven’t caught a thing as of yet, and we had them out and about when they were a few days old!

My husband is also a February baby, and our finances have generally recovered to do something great for his birthday too so i think it’s a great month to have a baby (but I’m obviously a bit biased!).

Think of it this way, you may wait and time it perfectly and conceive straight away and have a due date for february. You could then give birth early and even end up with a Christmas baby.

I personally don't believe in waiting just for a due date that appeals to you. It could weigh very heavily on your mind if things didn't go to plan.

OP just wanted to share my experience incase it helps at all. Im a teacher amd conceived my DS at the "perfect" time to make the most of the summer holidays and mat leave, it was very well planned and thought through and he was due in late June. However I ended up giving birth over 10 werks early in early April. I am now thinking about ttc number 2 and am basing my planning around the timing of when to get pregnant/cope with morning sickness etc rather than due dates bevause, even if I (or you) are lucky enough to fall pregnant quickly, the rest may not go the way you've planned. I needed to wait for a year to ttc to help prevent prematurity, I also needed to start my new job, now both those things are in place I will be TTC after my next period and will not base any plans around the due date!
Good luck with your TTC journey and hopefully it happems quickly for both of us :)

I would just get on with it as it doesn’t really matter when a baby’s birthday is and you don’t know how long it will take, although you might be really lucky again!

Unless you are very very close to 40, I'd skip a month. There is no real plus to a January birthday unless you live south of the equator! You might have been lucky to conceive quickly last time but equally you could easily be successful again first time.
I'm cracking on with TTC (#2) this month but I'm nearly 43 and just had a miscarriage so I really can't afford to wait. Otherwise I'd skip this month.

Baby 1 was conceived on the pill. Baby 2 was conceived 12 months after coming off pill and 8 months of tracking ovulation & actively trying. I would never recommend trying to achieve a due date in a certain month because you just don't know how long it'll take.

Good luck

I would just start right away if you're ready. We conceived DD after 6 cycles. When trying for #2, I came off the pill in Sept 2016 and have only just had my BFP so you never know how long it will take.

I'd start as soon as you're ready. We conceived DS the week we decided to ttc. Been trying for DC2 for 10 months now (though BFing had a lot to do with it) and each month is getting longer and longer.

We were nervous with timings and we were originally gonna stop TTC to avoid Xmas/NY baby for our DC#2 so I totally understand that you are thinking about waiting a while.

BUT, like others have said on here, just because #1 was a 1st cycle baby doesn't mean #2 will be. Unfortunately we are on cycle #9 and never stopped TTC despite potential for Xmas/NY baby. DS was a 1st cycle baby for us so its come to a massive shock and is causing us a lot of unprepared heart ache (we were so naïve). It doesn't help when rest of my friends and family had their #2 as easy as their #1.

I think you should just go straight at it, I'm not sure you can really time conceiving. Just have a cycle (or two if it comes to not being a 1st cycle baby) where you just casually see what happen?

Also end of January is far enough away from Xmas and (speaking as a Jan baby so I have experience!) you can get great bargain birthday presents in Jan sales!

My eldest daughter has an early February birthday and her sister has an end of January birthday. They are almost exactly 2 years apart. No issues with the dates at all and it is lovely that they are big enough by the time you have recovered from the birth for the spring evenings and longer days. We are actually considering ttc #3 and I was wondering whether to skip this month to avoid more jokes about this time of year from our friends!! But seriously don’t worry about a Jan/Feb baby. I wouldn’t change their birthdays even if I could!!

With my first baby I caught pregnant in the first cycle.

When trying for our second baby I caught pregnant on the first cycle again but sadly miscarried.

When we tried again for baby number two it then took us 10 months.

We had the dreaded August Baby (not my thoughts and meant light heartedly) but they come when they do. I would just get on with it if I were you.

My first baby was a Christmas baby. I decided to start ttc in March got a positive test in April. Barely had to look at a cock and boom.

This time 6 months in and nothing, not pregnant once. You can't guarantee these things. Just start humping like bunnies!

I fell pregnant easily first time and had a January baby (1st!) His birthday is a pain to be honest and can only imagine it getting worse as he gets older, which won't be much fun for him.

I then got pregnant on the pill, which would have been a December due date, but ended in miscarriage. We've decided to TTC #2 but are holding off until next cycle to avoid early Jan again.

I guess if we're still trying this time next year I may feel differently.

BUT this isn't about a birthday that's convenient FOR ME, it's about my child. I wouldn't want Christmas birthday, I worry DS will always be forced to celebrate his birthday at other times, people will be hungover/ broke/ away for his birthday, and not just one or 2 people a couple of birthdays but MOST people MOST years. Bit shit for him.