First period after miscarriage - feeling sad

[brianodriscoll]

Not sure what exactly I'm posting for...maybe for someone to give my head a wobble?!

I had a missed miscarriage in late Feb, culminated in surgical management in mid March. Today my period has started for the first time since early Jan and it's making me sad.

I knew it was very unlikely i wouldn't be pregnant this month - didn't know when I was fertile, opportunity to dtd etc but I don't know - maybe I was holding out hope?! I really wanted a 2018 baby and this means that's definitely not going to happen.

Also am really sore and really bloated, I think to me it feels similar to the miscarriage and not to usual period pains but that's probably just because it's been a while since I've had normal period pains.

Sorry for the ramble - needed to get it off my chest and husband is away this weekend.

Sorry to read this. Did you find out at the 12 week scan? Remember the hormones aren’t helping I would guess. Get some chocolate or whatever treats you fancy, a good film (a comedy maybe!!) and look after yourself. I wish you luck for your ttc journey and I am sure you’ll have a really beautiful 2019 baby.

I had an early scan after some bleeding at 7ish weeks. Am very grateful I found out then and not waiting until 12 weeks. Thanks for replying x

That's horrid op, I felt the same with my first period after miscarriage.

However, take comfort that your body's cycle is back to normal so ttc can carry on when you're ready - I know some people who's cycles took a while to get back to normal after a miscarriage. Good luck and take lots of care.

I'm very sorry you had to go through this op. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks at the end of oct 2016 after 10 months ttc. It is heartbreaking!
But! I had a bfp at the beginning of Feb 2017 and now have a beautiful little boy asleep on my lap 😍
First cycle is always a bit rubbish but just think of it as getting that one out the way and hormones back on track ready to conceive your little 🌈 baby 😊
I read that your more fertile after a miscarriage and your more likely to conceive within 6 months 😊

Focus on the positives and you'll be pregnant again soon xxx

Aww I’m so sorry - this is such a sad situation. SorrY you had to go through it. Look after yourself xx

I’m sorry you are going through this and it’s completely natural. I had my 4th in March and every time I had my first/second period after a loss it broke me. The bleeding brought it all back. Try to do something nice, a bath or slob out infront of the tv and eat chocolate. Be kind to yourself

@brianodriscoll I'm so sorry for your loss. I found out about my MMC at the 12 week scan in August, and had an ERPC two days later. I remember crying when I got my first period, especially as it was so heavy and awful! It's normal to cry, as it's a stark reminder of everything you've been through.

It took me over 2 months to feel better emotionally. Ignore people who say the words 'at least...' to you, and who try to make you process your grief more quickly. Take your time with your emotions. We started trying again as soon as we could (a little before cycle 1) and I got my BFP on cycle 3. Take care of yourself. Xx

Thank you all. Helps to know that others have been here and it's not weird to be sad. I think I thought I would be over it all by now! X