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Hi folks, this time last year I lived with my partner, we were trying for a baby, lived together ect....(actually posted a thread about a turkey Baster lol, if you can find it) naive in love bliss...skip to now he’s with one of my best friends and has been since July, he got his ex before me pregnant (we’ve been in touch, actually think she’s worst off than me) plus I’ve gone from thinking it was impossible for me to get pregnant without help to being....pregnant. I have two potentional dads, I did date them both properly, but quite shamefully there’s two weeks apart from them and I’m in a real pickle. I’m sick as a dog, I don’t have excitement like I thought I’d have when it would have been planned. Everyone’s got their opinion, and if I didn’t have pcocs and inverted ovaries, I might have considered abortion (I do work in a pre school and doubt I could ever do it tho) so any thoughts comments and advice, welcome. Thinking I will be single Mum, was seeing one of the potentional dads but I feel so differently bout him about everyone my past bfs. Just very emotional, poorly and miserable, lol. Hope you’re all in better fitting shoes than me xx

If you want this baby then you will be fine if you end up on your own. I’ve done it before and I was 19. I don’t think most women in here are in better fitting shoes than you because they’re not pregnant lol I assume both potential fathers know you’re pregnant? Unplanned pregnancies can be scary but they’re also a huge blessing so try not to stress too much about things you can’t really change. Being a single parent isn’t as bad as it seems, trust me. And you never know, you may change your mind about the potential dad you’ve been seeing. It’s just one of those things you kind of have to suck up and deal with. It’s done, you’re pregnant which is fantastic. I wouldn’t advocate an abortion unless you were 100% sure on one. If you decide to keep the baby, you just have to take each day as it comes and things tend to turn out okay. Good luck

This baby will be loved by me and everyone close to me and I do want them just scared and stressed by it all.yes both the dads know, both want to be the father. It’s strange being in touch with them both on a daily basis, it’s sort of messing with my head too because I did like them both for different reasons. I live in rural area all this will be shocking to everyone, im not ashamed but I am human, what people say will hurt me. Both the dads are local and all this will come out. Most important person in all this is my little sprout, just wish I wasn’t so sick. Thanks for your kindness. Xx

If there’s 2 weeks between the potential fathers it should be fairly easy to work out which is the father from your estimated delivery date or date of last period. How far gone are you?
I agree if you want the baby you will be able to manage alone! You might want to draft some support from your parents, family and close friends but of course you can do it

Well I’ve got a scan Wednesday, I charmed a trainee doctor, so hopefully that will give me idea. I think I’m 5/6 weeks, because I rarely had periods I could never keep track of my cycle. Been told the odds were stacked against me so it is bit of a miracle, luckily family on board, my symptoms are so strong couldn’t keep it a secret. Feel awful for my parents they went away to Australia for 6 weeks...come back and I’m pregnant and don’t know who the dad is. It’s been rough. : (

Sending a massive hug babe. It will all be totally fine. I'd look at it as AMAZING! Congrats!! You're having a baby. Maybe it's a bit of a shit situation but if you've been ttc for a while... then you want a baby. You can find out who the dad is with dna testing. Sounds like your ex is a total douche bag. Not sure how you feel about the other guy. But you'll make an amazing mum. And that baby will have everything it needs. I wish you all the best and I hope the pregnancy runs smoothly and alla that good stuff!! Allow yourself to get excited!!

Thank you so much! That message was so kind. My ex really broke me, but I feel totally different now. I am happy, my mums fetching me loads of ginger biscuits because I’m sick so much. I have read strong symptoms are good though so I’m trying to hold on to that. Weirdest thing for me is also the mood swings, how can I feel contend and happy then miserable and so low the next. It’s madness! I was brought up thinking I had to marry, then have children, all of my childhood friends haven’t got children, they’re owning houses first and moving into the engaged stage. I mean I’m 29, but we were all taught 30s for marriage then babies. So in my circle I’m the first, have two dads still live at home earning peanuts (moved back after the spilt) although my ex was a shit he had good job and house and we were very happy. So much has changed. I still hope to meet someone in few years and have the family Christmas, even if it’s a blended modern family. X

@user1496861967 I just want you to feel good. And you're not alone. Blended families are great. (Most of the time) I was with a douche bag guy for years, finally met the love of my life (daddy to my little growing bean) and he has a son and it just works. You'll find the perfect guy. Right now you have the perfect bub to think about and hey, the sun is shining!! What a lovely mummy you have. See mums are the best 😉

Aww that’s really kind of you!! Update. My baby has heart beat. is 6/7 weeks and all looks well so far so good. Know which dad it is too haha! Isn’t the one I’m seeing....and have introduced everyone I know too lol. Everyone will think baby is his but he isn’t haha. (Think he’s a he) anyway parents took me out for lovely meal to celebrate, I had pigeon breast starter, salmon main and Eton mess desert....skip to home and I’ve experienced it all, i like to think in reverse order haha. Heard my mum say “it’s such a waste!” Like it’s my my fault!! hope everyone’s good. X