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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Getting Pregnant with ED

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miumiu81 · 15/04/2018 19:03

Hey ladies,
I have this awful issue. I have the most lovely partner who is literally one in a million. Everything is just fabulous except we don't have sex at all. He is seeing a therapist but we don't seem to be getting anywhere. I think he has had an awful experience in the past that has damaged him as it seems likely its some sort of sex phobia. He has erection issues because of this and due to this his sex drive is now non existent. We have viagra but I cant seem to push him to take it as he says he is scared. As you can imagine this is awful but not only this we cant get pregnant.
I feel so upset and rejected, not to mention I'm 38 and feel like this is my last chance to have a baby. Has anyone else experienced this?

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anonaon · 15/04/2018 21:42

Hey . My partner is diabetic and struggles sometimes . I found him knowing I was ovulating made it worse. Less pressure then . Try not to mention it at all . I found the more we talked about it the bigger issue it became obv this doesn't work for everyone . ...try to focus on just foreplay for a few nights . Preferably when ur not ov...get some tension built up and enjoy each other .....Also I work in a pharmacy and tell him literally every bloke over 30 takes sildenafil.., it's astounding really ...and I can tell who takes it for diabetes or who just needs a helping hand so to speak lol as diabetics don't pay for it...xoxoxox

BastardGoDarkly · 15/04/2018 21:48

What is he scared of? It sounds quite selfish of him to be honest. Does he know how much you want a baby? Does he want one too?

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miumiu81 · 15/04/2018 22:19

No, this is not selfishness. This is something very deep and upsetting. We both want a family it is very much a shared wish.

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miumiu81 · 15/04/2018 22:20

Thanks for the kind message. I have to say even when we have used medication in the past it doesn't always work. I try not to add pressure.

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anonaon · 15/04/2018 23:59

It can take a good hour to work and u have to be in the mood too. Plus stimulation too..there's a knack to it...

Celebelly · 16/04/2018 00:01

Does he masturbate? It is he totally unable to get an erection even on his own? If he's able to do it solo, you could investigate having him ejaculate into a cup and then use a syringe. Not exactly romantic but if needs must!

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