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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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how to concieve a girl??

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lonelymumof3 · 05/08/2004 15:59

me and DH are thinking about number 4 (mad i know) We wont mind if we have another boy, but we would like to try and concieve a girl, so that dd has a sister.....(she wants a girl to play barbies with!!! Fed up of having 2 brothers!!!)

It wont be for a few months yet anyway, so we have plenty of time to prepare....someone suggested me taking a magnesium supplement for a while before conceiving? I don't know if this is true. I will try anything (within reason without compromising my health that is!)

Any ideas?

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Beetroot · 05/08/2004 23:08

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lonelymumof3 · 06/08/2004 07:23

beety i only said we were thinking about it.......and if i did it wouldnt be for a while yet.

I know we have had a tough time but we are through the worst of it now.

The main problem was that he hadnt bonded with ds2 cos he was convinced he was going to be a girl and couldn't get used to the idea.

He has completely changed over the past few weeks and I feel like we are finally getting 'us' back instead of just being mummy and daddy all the time.

Im wouldn't go into having a baby if I thought it wasnt going to work between us.

Yes ds is 25 weeks, but being on the depo injection, it will take a while for my cycle to get back to normal anyway when I finally come off it. Its at LEAST another 6 months away before we start trying....meaning similar age gaps as we had before.

Thank you all for your advice.

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wilbur · 06/08/2004 09:35

Since my dh is one of 4 boys and his dad is one of two boys and there are hardly any girls born in his extended family, a friend of mine gave me Hazel Chesterman-Phillips' book about choosing your baby's sex - she and I had had a drunken conversation before I was even thinking about babies when I said if I only had one child ever I would prefer it to be a girl. We didn't bother with it first time round and had ds, who was wonderful and taught me not to be so ridiculous -wanting a girl indeed! Then when we were trying again we thought why not give H C-P's method a go becasue dh adn I both came from single sex families and we just fancied a mixture? It was not a major thing, we didn't do any of the diet, I just took my temperature and charted ovulation (very easy and fascinating, really, I got quite into getting to know my body) for a few months and then we started trying - lots of sex until a few days before ovulation and then stop or use a condom. Also dh had just started cycling to work so he had overheated bit for at least an hour a day which I think must have exhausted his boy swimmers . Anyway, second month we were really trying, dd was conceived. I do think there is something in this - not that it will work for everyone but as long as it's not a huge issue, I think it's fine to try.

nellyk · 06/08/2004 11:56

calcium and magnesium supplements alter the acidity / alkalinity (can't remember which) of your body, which increases the chances of having a girl

lucybelle · 06/08/2004 21:44

Have to say that having lots of sex 3-5 days before ovulating and then completely stopping during ovulation, certainly worked for us. DD was conceived and gave us the perfect 'one of each' family! Worth a try at least!

Linnet · 06/08/2004 21:57

dh and I decided to try for another baby. We didn't mind if we got a boy or girl so long as it was healthy that was fine. But secretly I would have loved another girl as we have girl already and I know what to do with them iykwim. Dh also said that he would like another girl BUT we both wouldn't have minded if we'd had a boy.

Before we even tried getting pregnant a friend of mine put my wedding ring on a chain and put it over my wrist it predicted I would have 2 children and that they would both be girls. Something to do with if the ring swings in circles it's a girl or if it goes sideways its a boy, I might have that the wrong way round though.
I also looked at the chinese Gender chart to see what it predicted We were going to try and concieve in August so as to have a May Baby and it predicted a girl. This was all in good fun you understand we really wouldn't have minded if we'd had a boy.

We didn't do anything different when it came to trying for our baby. But the spooky thing was when we asked what sex the baby was we were told it was a girl. She arrived in May and she's now 11 weeks old.

The chinese gender prediction chart has predicted correctly for myself and 4 of my friends, weird or what?

I do think that it's hit and miss though after all it's going to be one or the other whatever you do. Good Luck.

karen99 · 07/08/2004 12:28

ooooh, we're thinking about this too (for fun! as we have ds) and I've had a look at a couple of the chinese gender sites and they all show different calendars...! Which is the right one?! LOL, glad we won't be trying that one, but the acidity thing sounds interesting, plus lots of action under the sheets during the week before ovulating.. I know to get ds we tried on the day of ovulating and low and behold a month later..

smellymelly · 07/08/2004 13:38

How do the chinese gender charts work when boy/girl twins are conceived though?? Well ant of these actually?

smellymelly · 07/08/2004 13:38

Many that ANY of these?

Mirage · 08/08/2004 20:42

The Chinese gender chart was wrong for us.It predicted a boy.DD was born in August.Happily I secretly wanted a little girl.

We are ttc again now & honestly don't mind what we are given as long as its healthy.

Blackduck · 08/08/2004 21:08

Surely the chinese gender charts are not right - they work on the female, yet it is the sperm, not the egg that dictates the gender

honeybunny · 08/08/2004 21:33

Having conceived 3 boys prior to this pregnancy, we were trying for a girl this time and it worked! Done through timing. I ovulate fairly regularly on day 16 according to my persona, so after a few months of having unprotected sex up until day 10 with no pg went for day 11 on holiday, the timing method recommends having sex up until 5days prior to ov for a few months and then 4days prior etc, etc (as well as day 2 and 3,4,5,6,7,8,9 and 10....amazing what a bit of sun will do to your libido!!), they also recommend doing it lots so that "daddy" makes lots of new healthy sperm. Then chastity belt on for the rest of our stay until safely past ovulation, we forgot to take condoms...doh! Didnt bother with diet or douching, as wasnt really expecting it to work first time but heh, we rock in the fertility stakes!! Now I'm 23/40 and counting!! Just hope the obs consultant got it right when she said it was a girl on the scan, otherwise I'm going to have to eat my words.

My success has been down to luck and reading "Choosing the sex of your baby the natural way" by Hazel someone, and I should point out that we followed this for ds2.... definitely not a girl, tho' we did try but got impatient and pushed the day up until 2days prior to ov with him.

Best of luck!!

Flossam · 09/08/2004 12:01

Lmof3, just wanted to warn you that depo does not always take as long as it threatens to wear off. It is my very reason for being on this site in the first place!!

myermay · 09/08/2004 15:16

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VerySillyMommy · 11/08/2004 19:29

The only thing that I can add to this is that both my boys were conceived in months when we had very little sex. ds1 was conceived in a month that we had sex three times (once only at the fertile time) and ds2 was conceived in a month that we had sex only once!
I have been told (a possibly agree!) that in order to conceive a girl, to increase your chances you should have sex lots and lots AND lots!
If we go for #3, watch out hubby!
Can anyone else back this theory up... ?

Piffleoffagus · 11/08/2004 19:32

boys was a one off almost as we did it once after AF then d went away for 7 weeks on tour.
With dd we did it loads as dh had just come back after 10 days away....
HTH

peachypie · 11/08/2004 19:36

apparently for a girl you should have nookie before you ovulate a couple of days, because female sperm have a longer life span and there is more chance of one being around when you ovulate rather than a male one, if you want a boy then should have nookie on day you ovulate as male sperm can swim faster thus get there first! i read this somewhere cant remember. its worked for me cos i tried for a boy and got a ds first then i tried for a girl and yip i got a dd. good luck

VerySillyMommy · 11/08/2004 19:44

The timing thing didn't work for me. ds1 was conceived on day 14 - bang on ovulation. ds2 was conceived on day 8 in a month where we had sex only once!!!!

CP3 · 11/08/2004 19:49

Well next time im going for a boy, as they are beautiful and so much easier. My DD is a terror and Ds is an Angel.

chunkypie · 14/08/2004 11:28

Personally I do not believe in any of this stuff.
I know of 3 people who have tried the timing method & it has not worked 4 any of them.
One girl I know tried it 3 times 2 concieve a girl & has just given birth 2 her 4th son!! (She followed the book religiously)
Also I know of 2 friends who only had sex dead on ovulation, as they were having trouble concieving & they both had girls!
At the end of the day u should be trying 4 a baby & not a particular sex as this can lead 2 bonding problems & rejection if the baby is not of the sex u wanted.
There are only 2 sexes at the end of the day, so some people will appear 2 have had success & other's will not.
And one last note.I think my dh would kick me out of bed if I jumped in smelling of vinegar!!

Rainbow · 14/08/2004 11:40

According to the chinese gender chart my 3Ds should be DS1 and DD2 and DD3. Just talking this thread through with a couple of friends. Advice as follows:
The vinegar douche worked for 1.
Acidic and spicy foods worked for another (lay off milk, red meat and other alkali foods)
Orange peel grated into bath water (2 oranges per half bath before sex) worked for another. Don't know if they really worked. I didn't try for either sex. Good luck and have fun trying

chunkypie · 14/08/2004 14:34

Surely if the chinese gender thing was true, we would no longer see all the unwanted girl's in dying room's etc in China, as they would all look at their chart & concieve boys!
And like one of the other Mum's pointed out, how do they explain boy/girl twin's.
According 2 chart my ds should be a dd anyway!
At the end of the day, year's ago nobody had heard of any of these thing's & there has alway's been a pretty evan # of male's & female's in the world.

CP3 · 14/08/2004 14:48

Its fun trying though .

chunkypie · 14/08/2004 15:23

Glad 2 hear someone out there still has time 4 a sex life!!!!!!

Mamac12 · 26/04/2020 03:56

Hi, I know this is an old thread but I have just used a vinegar douche after intercourse to try and improve chances of a girl but think I should of done it beforehand. After doing so I read so many scary threads on vinegar douche and how it should not be used and panicked. Did you do this laying down as I’m worried it’s going to cause problems.

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