Hubby low sex drive

[MrsO28]

Looking for advice.
DH has an up and down sex drive - and has had for 10 years, so this isn’t related to TTC.
He can go months and months with a high sex drive, then it just disappears and I’m lucky to get a look in once a month..
even if I try to initiate sex, he doesn’t respond.
I don’t think it is me, I think it has a lot to do with his general moods, and seems particularly Related to the time of year - might sound weird but in cold wet dark and drizzly months, he seems to lose interest and be more stressed generally, and then when the world is a bit brighter, so is he.

I just wondered if anyone had experienced anything similar, and if anyone had any suggestions as to what I can do to improve this. He’s on vitamins already.

I should mention that whilst I was on hormonal contraception, I didn’t not realise but this killed my sex drive so this didn’t used to be as much of a issue and perhaps he’s gotten used to this. I came off HC in June 2017 and been TTC (loosely) since December and my drive has done through the roof since having no artificial hormones. Don’t know if I can wait till summer !! Haha TIA xx

Sounds like he could potentially have seasonal affective disorder, I think there's special lamps you can get that are supposed to help with your mood (If it is that of course)

Yeah I have thought this.
I've gone for mood enhancing vitamins etc and will see if he improves over recent weeks. If not, I'll talk to him again.

Just so frustrating!! 😂😂

This does sound like seasonal effective disorder, a light box could definitely help him. Does he see the seasonal patterns in his moods?

He notices a general difference, and moans about feeling lethargic in the winter.

I don't bring up the sex drive too much as I think it makes him feel self conscious. Plus, when I was on hormonal contraception I had much less interest and so it wouldn't be fair of me to kick up a stink!

Did a bit of research and am trying him on St John’s Wort herbal supplements ?! Willing to give anything a try!

Sounds like he might be vitamin d deficient

Good news is you only need to do it once, at the right time.

I've conceived twice only having had sex once that cycle. I'd suggest that during his high sex drive times you just have fun, but during low periods use OPKs and get that once a month, at the right time!

@Wellthisunexpected yeah good plan, I just don't want him to feel under pressure so need to be careful how I approach it! Thanks x

@ILoveyou2018 I have put him on vitamins which contain VitD, about a fortnight ago, so hopefully we will start to notice a difference soon, especially with the lighter nights and occasional ball of fire in the sky! Thanks x

Oh good, I had low vitamin d and it affected my mood and sex drive in the dark winter months. Vitamin d has really helped but It has to be vitamin D3 high dose and you need to take magniseum with it too. I get these ones as they are natural:-

www.hollandandbarrett.com/shop/product/together-natural-marine-magnesium-capsules-60010639?skuid=010639

www.hollandandbarrett.com/shop/product/together-natural-food-source-vitamin-d-1000iu-capsules-with-metabolites-60010631?skuid=010631