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We are jolly well going to get and stay pregnant this month and we are BROOKING NO ARGUMENT

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Imps9 · 29/03/2018 10:17

New thread!

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Imps9 · 07/04/2018 10:41

Hello all

Cups really hope you're doing okay. Am worried that the fact you haven't posted for a while means that things aren't going well, but really hope I'm assuming the worst for no reason.

Glad you're both well (if sick and tired) Dancer and Maybe. I remember panicking in the early days because I was cramping and thought that there must be something wrong. Then the cramping stopped and I panicked and thought that there must be something wrong. Honestly, there is always something that will make us worry!

Hope you've all got nice weekend plans. Mr I is away today and I'm trying to avoid having to see my sister-in-law and her family. I think I will just use the excuse that B-B is napping, even if he isn't. Toddlers do have their uses sometimes!

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NoCupcakesOrCocktails · 07/04/2018 10:41

Maybe it's impossible not to over analyse everything when it comes to growing babies I find! Glad to hear all is ok though 👍

Dancer hope you are ok? Have you made it all official yet?

Not good news for me, my betas slowed down then stopped rising. I had a scan that showed the gestational sac and yolk sac but not fetal pole. So not a viable pregnancy. My cervix is closed and bleeding has stopped ironically. I'm back in a week for another scan and will decide on management then if it's not happened naturally Sad

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Imps9 · 07/04/2018 10:58

Oh Cups Sad. That's heartbreaking. I'm so sorry Sad. Much love to you. I hope that you don't have to have any management and it all passes naturally.

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DancerOnIce · 07/04/2018 16:42

Oh cups I’m so so sorry Flowers

NoMaybeAboutIt · 07/04/2018 18:37

I'm so sorry Cups Flowers

keepitgoing · 07/04/2018 19:11

Oh lovely, I'm so sorry xxx

NoCupcakesOrCocktails · 09/04/2018 12:26

Thanks everyone, just trying to keep myself as busy as possible until Friday so I don't have much time to think about it x

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Imps9 · 09/04/2018 18:28

Good plan Cups. I guess you've not given it much thought (although maybe you have) but I really hope you try again. You will get your second little one.

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DancerOnIce · 14/04/2018 21:02

Hope you’re doing ok cups

NoCupcakesOrCocktails · 17/04/2018 08:39

Hey hope you guys are all doing well? How are things Dancer? Have you seen the midwife?

Maybe bet you are getting a good size bump now!

Imps any sign of AF?

Sorry I've not been on my head has been all over the place. I'm still pregnant, I went back for my follow up scan and they could just see the fetal pole and thought there could be a heartbeat but couldn't be sure. They were still very negative about what would happen as the gestational sac hadn't grown and the fetal pole was so small they couldn't even measure it. They also said there is no way it can be viable with such low and dropping betas. So we were sent home to wait another week for a scan. I then went to my clinic yesterday for a prescription and while there they did a scan. They said there was definitely a heartbeat and they managed to measure the fetal pole as 2mm so it is absolutely tiny. They are saying I'm measuring 8 days behind. The sac is also very low down in my uterus which puts me at greater risk of miscarriage and it's close to my c section scar too. So all in all the odds are not good. But the consultant said to me as far as he's concerned while there is a heartbeat there is hope, he did admit he was completely flummoxed by my betas though. I've been googling like crazy but can't find any other stories like mine

DancerOnIce · 17/04/2018 20:31

Oh my goodness cups how confusing! Your head must be all over the place, not knowing how to feel or what to think. Are you back for a scan on Friday? I really hope you get some good news Flowers

I had a midwife appointment last week and have had my scan appointment come through. I feel like my chances are 50/50 of things going wrong. Although I said to DH we should try and be more positive as realistically the chances of a second miscarriage is 1% apparently. I just can’t get my head around that

NoMaybeAboutIt · 17/04/2018 21:16

Oh Cups, this is all so crazy. It must be so hard not knowing what to think. I really hope that things keep improving and that you have more news very soon.

Oh Dancer, it's just so hard not to think the worst. Even though the stats are so in your favour, it never takes the doubt away. But I am brooking everything will be amazing. When is your scan?

As for me, I am indeed sizeable. As in I look about 8 months gone Blush my bp and heart aren't exactly playing ball and I've been spending a lot of the last week in triage. Things are ok, just lots of monitoring. We also had a private gender scan at the weekend as we literally couldn't wait any longer. Looks like we have one of each on the way Smile

DancerOnIce · 17/04/2018 22:24

Sorry to hear you’ve had some scares maybe but I’m glad all is going ok. And one of each!! So exciting!! How many weeks are you now? Would love to see your bump - I bet you can’t imagine getting any bigger!

My scan is May 10th so just over 3 weeks to wait 😬

NoMaybeAboutIt · 17/04/2018 22:37

Ah, how exciting! Is the time dragging? How are you feeling?

I'm 17+2 today. My 20 week scan is on the 3rd May, but time seems to be going backwards. A Also got offered her school place yesterday. Can't believe my baby is old enough.

I'll try and attach a picture Blush

DancerOnIce · 18/04/2018 07:25

Wow what a beautiful bump!! You look great!

Time is really dragging. It’s the slowest time of my life! Probably going slowly as we haven’t told anyone too. I’m feeling ok. Really exhausted a lot of the time, and feeling a little bit sick at times but not too much. I keep wondering about a private scan before the 12 week scan, but I don’t think it’d put my mind at rest

F also got her school place on Monday! She still seems like a baby!

NoMaybeAboutIt · 18/04/2018 09:38

How are they so grown up? Did you get the place you had hoped for? Waiting for that 12 week scan is torture. In fact, waiting for every scan is torture. Especially when you are keeping it quiet. Let's hope these next few weeks fly by!!

And thank you for being nice about my bump Wink

DancerOnIce · 18/04/2018 18:13

We got our second choice of school place, which is actually probably a better option for F thinking about it. I was initially a bit disappointed but the more I think about it I think it’ll be a good school for her

I’m not sure what to do with F when we go for the scan? We want her to be first to know so don’t want to tell anyone else and ask them to look after her. Maybe I’ll ask my mum to watch her and say I’ve got a haircut or something, but then when I pick her up afterwards I would feel guilty not telling my mum the same day Confused

NoMaybeAboutIt · 19/04/2018 08:54

I'm pleased you're happy with the choice in the end. Feels like such a massive step!

The scan is a tricky one. Would anyone at the hospital be willing to sit with her while you first went in, and then maybe allow her in after?

DancerOnIce · 19/04/2018 20:43

Yes it must be worth asking. I’ll give the hospital a call and check

NoMaybeAboutIt · 21/04/2018 08:28

Did you manage to sort something Dancer?

How are you doing Cups?

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Imps9 · 21/04/2018 10:02

Oh god Cups how confusing Confused. Are you still bleeding now? When is your next scan? I wonder if it could have been a vanishing twin or something. Gaahh I have everything I own crossed that the little one makes it. Poor you, what a stressful time.

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Imps9 · 21/04/2018 10:05

Beautiful bump Maybe!

It was the 20 week scan I found very stressful waiting for. I had scans at 6 weeks, 9 weeks and 13 weeks, so the gap between 13 weeks and 20 weeks felt very very long in comparison. Plus I was absolutely convinced they'd pick up something awful since I couldn't believe it would all end up okay given what had happened before.

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NoMaybeAboutIt · 21/04/2018 10:47

That makes total sense Imps its so very hatd to relax at all, isn't it? I'm lucky that I had a scan at 12 and 16 weeks (plus a sneaky private gender scan last week) so it at least breaks it into more manageable chunks. How are you ? Any sign of AF yet?

NoCupcakesOrCocktails · 21/04/2018 11:28

Hi well the confusion continues for me! I had another scan yesterday and baby still has a heartbeat. But is now measuring 2 weeks behind. The epu have not been particularly good. They keep insisting my dates are wrong or maybe it's a natural conception. They don't seem interested in the fact it's IVF or that we haven't dtd since before transfer. So I'm feeling quite scared as that's a lot to measure behind. I'm back for another scan in 2 weeks

NoMaybeAboutIt · 23/04/2018 15:51

Oh Cups how confusing. Have your clinic been any more help than the EPU? Two weeks must seem like a lifetime to wait x