Want to ttc but I'm fat

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I'm 4 stone overweight. I'm almost 28 years old. I lead a very active lifestyle, I'm fit but just fat.
I need to sort out my eating habits and eat a lot cleaner.
I have a dd aged 8 that I had young. I have been with my partner for 7 years and this will be his first although he is happy with just my dd.
I want to try and lose weight for my health and for an easier pregnancy and of course for the babies health....but it's hard not to fire in just now and to hell with it.
I'm on regevidon (pill) although I'm on antibiotics for tonsilitis just now and have been told my pill will be less effective so I've just stopped taking it for now as I was due a period anyway which has now arrived.
I just feel disgusted with myself. If I wasn't fat we could just muddle in and start trying. But losing 4 stone is a massive challenge and something I will have to focus all my energy on...when all I want to do is get my baby brain on
Anyone with similar feelings or experiences?

I've always struggled with my weight and weigh more than I should. I'm quite active (and already have a 2 yr old 😊) and try to make sensible food choices. We're trying again now and I'm over weight. Don't beat yourself up, you're obviously wanting to make some changes and I'm sure you will. Xx

There are some really good people on YouTube that might inspire you to get going -Maryana Dvorska is one! What I would recommend is start slowly and always let yourself have some treats or you'll just end up binge eating. If food is your issue educate yourself on it. You should try counting your macros for a while - I found this really interesting when I first learnt about it. There are some really good apps for easy tracking! I still let myself have treats but I try to buy snacks which arent too bad e.g. popcorn, halotop icecream, beef jerky, fibreone brownies (90 calories).

I want to try eat three healthy meals a day and maybe have one treat a day like a bar of choc or a packet of crisps and stop there. At the moment a bar of chocolate is a family sized bar and some more lol.
I just want to learn to eat normally.
I also need to give up diet drinks and energy drinks.

Are you comfortable saying what your height and weight is? Don't feel like you have to if you don't want to

I’m a few stone overweight and currently 13 weeks pregnant. I didn’t get round to losing all of the weight I gained with DS1 (it was coming off very slowly I just didn’t actively try). I didn’t want a big age gap so I just thought that I could lose weight while trying to conceive DC2, both of which will take a few months.

I actually conceived in first month of trying, and nausea mean’t my diet went out of the window! I plan to be careful not to overeat, then concentrate on weight loss after the birth. At booking appt midwife said initially said I was low risk but I think she then worked out my BMI and because it’s over 30 I have been given an appointment for a glucose tolerance test, and a couple of growth scans in my third trimester. I’m hoping my pregnancy will be straightforward and my weight will be lower than it was with DS at full term (It was lower to begin with but I gained a LOT of weight).