Irrational fear of being unable to have a baby

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A bit of background. Have nevet used protection with dh. Not actively trying or regularly having sex more than once a week, but hoping. First month using opks and dtd every other day. Find myself trying every possible thing to get pregnant, soy isoflavones ( which have completely messed my cycle up this month), inositol, conceive plus, debating vitamin b6. It was thought previously I could have pcos but internal ultrasound and blood test in the past have been normal, with normal womb, ovaries etc and evidence this month with soy that I have ovulated. Even though a month of actively trying is nothing, My previous history makes me feel like I'm never going to have a baby. I have this real gut feeling that I can't get pregnant. Hubby is also a chef and worrying that this has damaged his swimmers. We are both in our early 20s and I know what I'm feeling is considered stupid and I really really don't want to insult anyone who has real fertility issues but I just want to stop feeling like this. Af is due anytime and I'm not pregnant. How can I stop feeling like this? I'm worrying about everything, dh is struggling with timed intercourse and sometimes has to 'do it himself' and finish in me. Which stresses me out further. Has anyone experienced what I'm feeling? I'm just looking for some reassurance because at the moment all I feel is complete despair.

Yes I have but after an ectopic pregnancy and 16 months trying to conceive.

Perhaps try a meditation or yoga class to calm your nerves? That’s really helping me anyway xxx

Speaking as someone who also had this irrational fear, I think you need to relax a little. I was so convinced that I wouldn’t be able to have children that I went to see my gp when I was about 19 and not even close to being ready to ttc... I was practically laughed out of the surgery! I remember talking to a friend of mine, and we were both so worried, both convinced that we would end up childless as we wanted to have children so much. Fast forward 20 years, and I have two lovely (most of the time 😂) children, and my friend has six 🤗
Fears are not always based on fact, and although I did have problems conceiving I found that a positive outlook really helped. If you get to a year down the line, then I would go and get checked out. Good luck, and i hope everything works out for you soon!

You've never used protection at all? How long have you been married?

Thank you for your responses everyone. ilikebread, I have read a lot about yoga and I really think it might be worth a try! I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling, and it makes me feel incredibly selfish for the way I feel. I really, really hope you get some good news soon. Chintaria, thank you for some reassurance, it's great to hear that I'm not the only one , it's so hard going through the cycle of af coming and then turning into a complete and utter ogre when panic sets in. Si1ver, we have been together 4 years and married for 1. Other than withdrawal for a year. We've used no protection at all for around 3 years. (Albeit I've never tracked ovulation or timed intercourse until very recently.)

Withdrawal can be effective if used correctly. I wouldn't panic just yet

I had the same fear, I think a lot of women do if having children is something that means a lot to you. I did take a while to concieve but have a 9mo now we also didn't use contraception for 3 years & no pregnancy but once we started actively trying, opks, timed sex etc it didn't take long... you may have just been missing your prime time! I guess we were...

If you haven't used protection for 3 years it may be worth getting checks done, most fertility problems can be overcome if you are young enough which you are.