i need to vent

[crissy95]

Hi everyone,

Ill cut right to the chase, i've been ttc for 18mths. My sister in law has always said she does not want kids anytime soon (shes only 20 and lives with mum). Ive been with my DH for 6yrs and have a stable life, but guess what...she falls pregnant by accident! she doesn't even know if she will keep the baby or not.

i have been supportive but i cant help but feel annoyed and jealous. Ive wanted what she has for a long time and it just isn't happening for me.

not to mention that about a month ago i found out that a girl i went to uni with has also fallen pregnant with a guy shes just met. Again not planned...but im here wanting a baby and its just not happening for me.

i feel so upset about this. I feel very envious of them :(

anyway i just needed to get that off my chest.

It’s understandably why you feel how you do- and you’re allowed to feel some self pity. Absolutely. However you also should try to not let it cloud your relationships with others. I can understand that the SIL one is very close to home, and seems very u fair- but she is going through a tough time too- albeit something non relatable to you. Take what time you need, take a deep breath, and if you can’t be supportive, maybe write a letter explaining why. That it’s because of how you feel, and you’re working through it.

I'm completely infertile and I've no chance at treatment and I spent the whole day working with a pregnant colleague and it was hard not to feel shit. Don't feel bad about it, it's a tough thing to cope with. It's been 15 years for me knowing the truth and I still get sad.

thanks girls. I am feeling much better today, i feel like i just needed to get that off my chest and not hold in my feelings.

Shes going through a difficult time and i have decided to be there for her 100%. After all this is what family does.

@Raven88 i am so sorry to hear about your story but thank you for sharing it. I couldn't imagine being in your position but i admire how strong you were by continuing to work alongside someone who was expecting. I will keep your strength in mind when dealing with hard situations.

It's normal. I have a friend (not very close) pregnant right now. She is 9 weeks and she is 40. This is her first baby. We have 12 families in the club. Each month we get together and hang out. When I heard the news, I was so happy for her. I even called her and congratulated her. But when I saw her on Sunday little green monster get into me. I’ve got little jealous. I was talking to her, but suddenly I realized I don't like her at all. I feel really bad. But I guess that’s because I want a baby so bad. And when I hear someone has one, I get jealous. It's normal and it's ok to be that way.

Come join us on the fed up thread!!! Rants welcome there anytime xx