Please tell me I'm not being selfish!

[time4two]

I have a 7.5 month DD and we have decided that we will try for baby number 2. When people ask if I would like another I say 'yes I'd do it now'- I get 'enjoy your DD first,' my dream is to have my children close together. I'm not being selfish am I? Would like to hear of other experience of having children close together.

don;t let anyone else dictate when you have your children.whether you have a 2 year or a 10 year gap, it is what works best for your family!

It is entirely up to you! There are all sorts of arguments "for" and "against" and none of them really mean much. Having them close together is good and so is having a gap! Do whatever is best for you and your family and good luck!

We decided to try for our second when DS1 was 5 months old. Its incredibly hard work in the early days, physically it was hard being pregnant and DS1 wasn't walking when DS2 was born. I felt awfully guilty for DS1 which I didn't expect. BUT they are now 5 and 4, good mates, they do the same things, get on with each others friends, play really well together. Of course they fight, but they are similar size so one isn't knocking lumps out of the other

It really worked for us, and we reap the rewards. When DD was born (22 months between her and DS2) the boys played together, DD slept in the day and I had 'me' time - which I never expected.

Not quite sure how things will pan out in a few weeks when no 4 comes along!

i have had this sooo many times in the last few months - we have a dd who is nearly 9 months and four months ago decided to try again (we already have a nearly 5 year old). Everyone kept saying, ooh shes so young, just enjoy her and then I had a m/c in March and they were like, well its probably for the best, you havent had time to enjoy her!!

It is possible to enjoy your child AND be pregnant again at the same time isnt it? You go for it girl, you obviously had a great experience like I did and whats wrong with wanting to do it all again so soon? LOL x

I have a 15 month gap between my two children, and think it is fantastic, as foxybrown said, there are many advantages to having them close together including the closeness of the sibling relationship which I marvel at regularly with my two who are now age 2 and 3. Go for it time4two if you want to, it may not happen quickly anyway! You are not being selfish.

I think the best thing for a child is for their parents to have them for "selfish" reasons - ie having them because and when they want them. So do what you feel happy with. The children will be happy anyway.