Anyone else going for no3?!

[MrsY87]

We've decided to ttc #3...DD is 3.5yo & DS is 6m. We've always wanted 3 so have decided to just go for it and see what happens! DD was conceived first go, DD took 9m & 2mc so who knows how long it will take this time! Anyone else ttcing #3?!

My husband and I are trying for baby no 3. We have two boys 4year old and an almost 3 year old. We've just started trying this month and I'm ovulating this coming week (according to my calendar) 🤞

I would like a third. Dd1 is 3 y 2 months, dd2 is 10 months. I would ideally like to conceive no. 3 when dd2 is 18-24 months but as we would not be able to afford all the childcare or me to give up part time work (unless dh gets a better paid job which could very well happen) dc is going to have to wait a while. I suffer from awful pregnancy migraines too so I think I would have to give up work to be pregnant with a third.

The idea of three just feels right. I can't picture myself with four dc but two just doesn't feel 'finished' yet!

I feel like I'm getting symptoms of AF. TTC should be fun, this sucks! x

Hey, we’re currently trying for our third. It’s been a long journey and there will probably be a 6 year age gap between dc2 and dc3, if we ever conceive. Both DC1 and 2 were conceived really quickly (first month trying, DC1 was sort of a happy accident!) but I was young then and now I’m 35 and we’ve been properly trying for about 5 months and nothing has happened so I’m starting to panic a little. Logic tells me that it’s ok to not fall pregnant immediately- has anyone else taken a little longer to fall pregnant before? My emotional side says “if it doesn’t happen first month, it’s not going to happen at all!”

Can I join? We are trying for #3 too - DS 5.5 and DD is nearly 3. Currently on Cycle #2 and 2 days to go before I can test...and the wait is killing me!!

Welcome newbies! Nice to see there are quite a few of us wanting a 3rd!

@Waawaa When is AF due?

@MissDollyMix we conceived our 1st in the 1st month of trying, our 2nd took the best part of a year with no obvious explanation other than I was 2yrs older but still only 29. I felt like it would never happen at times & found the monthly disappointment hard to deal with given I'd expected it to happen just as quickly as the first time. I went & had some acupuncture to help, who knows if it did but it was certainly relaxing (I have a v stressful job) & it felt like I was doing something positive. Would you consider something like that?

Thank you mrsy87! Six weeks, fingers crossed the little bean is ok!

I'm due 22nd but I'm getting telltale signs. Does anyone else feel guilty about getting annoyed ttc #3? Some People struggle to have one and I'm impatient trying to conceive a third! x

@Waawaa I feel a bit like that. I have a family member who is really struggling to conceive her first. Whilst I didn't get pregnant easily with my first two (took nearly 18 months both times) we obviously did manage it and are now about to start TTC#3 and whilst I'm worried about how long it'll take, I'm also worried about how we'll tell her if I do get pregnant! I feel quite guilty about it.

Yes! I'm in the same place!! I think we'll struggle this time, we are both tired and my partner is stressed at work. He also works awAy so there will be times we'll miss our fw 😫 By my sons godmother has been ttc for 2.5 years so when I have news I don't know how I'll tell her!

We have a few friends/family who have been trying for a while too so know it will be hard to tell them, if we hopefully do get lucky to have a 3rd when they are struggling to have their 1st.

I really promised myself I'd try to be chilled out about ttc this time but I can already feel myself trying to symptom spot even though I must only be about 5dpo based on my peak opk and I haven't even had my first period since giving birth yet so not entirely sure when to expect it either! I was a total POAS addict last time & feel like I probably will end up being again...anyone else a POAS addict?!

@Waawaa I really do.

TTC no 3 it's proving really hard for us compared to first two but I struggle abit here and often don't mention it as well we should be happy as we have two shouldn't we?

But what I've come to realise is it doesn't matter what anyone else may think or how anyone perceives your situation.

That feeling each month.. that feeling when you realise you are miscarrying it painful as ever.

That worry that somethings 'changed' since before... it's still very much there.

@MrsY87 I'm a POAS addict! We've not even started trying yet and I'm doing OPKs 

@Patienceofatoddler struggling to conceive and loss are tough no matter how many children you have. As you've said, it's not about comparing your situation to that of other people's.

@Patienceofatoddler  it's so so hard when you are faced with the monthly disappointment or a mc, just because you already have one child doesn't make it any easier or less important. I really struggled emotionally when we were ttcing #2, it's a horrible place to be. where in this cycle are you?

@NoseringGirl glad I'm not the only one! I should probably buy some ICs rather than virtually pissing on fivers all the time! 🤦‍♀️

ICs all the way @MrsY87! Especially when you've got a full on addiction.

@patienceofatoddler yes to all that. As we’re currently struggling to conceive no.3, I feel a real mix of emotions. It’s been such a long journey for us with plenty of low points but I don’t feel I can really talk to many people about it because I am so grateful for the 2 children I have that I don’t want to look ungrateful or greedy wanting another when there are some who struggle to have just one but at the same time it really hurts. My eldest in particular doesn’t know we’re trying but often asks if I’m pregnant or can we have another baby and it cuts me up a little bit. I’m happy with my two and if we never have another one I’ll be upset but life goes on. I just hate living in limbo!

@MrsY87 we are on cycle day 23 so getting there.

It's a horrendous place to be - I've found this so much harder mentally and on our marriage than the previous two put together.

It's selfish but we have always wanted three children and we just don't feel 'complete' at present.

I keep telling myself statistically it has to happen soon doesn't it x x

@MissDollyMix so sorry your in the same position.

It's horrible - My best friend had a miscarriage in Oct and I tried so hard to be there for her. It took me nearly two months and nearly a bottle of wine to tell her about my miscarriage I felt so guilty.

Life is just a bitch

Dc1 is 6, dc2 is 2 and were about to start ttc no.3. DC1 took 9 months during which I had 2 miscarriages. DC2 a surprise pregnancy. Not sure what to expect this time I've always managed to get pregnant easily but struggled to stay pregnant in the past.

@Patienceofatoddler I'm amazed my DH has agreed that we can try for a 3rd as when we struggled to conceive our 2nd it really put a strain on our marriage too, I just became obsessed with getting & staying pregnant. I don't think my DH found it as hard as I did, obviously he was sad when I mc but I don't think he got the monthly disappointment, he was just like 'oh well at least you can have a glass of wine at xyz'...how is your DH finding it?

Hi @holdmybeer we've just started too & also have no idea how long it will take this time having had one quick & one take the best part of a year 🙅‍♀️

Hi, can I join in please? We are currently considering TTC a third. DSs are currently 5 & 2.6yrs. Only thing holding us back at the moment is DHs slight concern about cost, but it really is a question of slightly rejigging our spending rather than not being able to afford.

I think if we do decide to go ahead, we’ll start TTC in the next three months. We were very lucky with DS1, and I got pregnant in our ‘warm-up’ cycle, but fear it may not be so easy this time.

Hi,
Trying for our 3rd too. My first two I fell v quickly, but this time we've been trying 6 months and still nothing 😔
I had a mc a bit over a year ago (fell quickly that time too) so worried I can't have another one now.
The waiting is soooo hard!

Hi @Breakfastfordinner & @Equimum

So it seems my 1st AF has come today since I stopped bf just under 3 weeks ago. Was hoping we'd get lucky & conceive before it came but obviously no such luck...trying to think positively about it that now I know my periods are back I can start tracking ov etc, really hoping it doesn't take as long as DS did. Is anyone else using opks, temping etc? Think I might just start with opks, DS doesn't sleep reliably enough for temping!

@breakfastfordinner we’re very similar. Or first two were conceived very quickly and now we’ve been trying for 6/7 months and didly squat! I’m blaming my age as I was in my 20s then and now I’m 35+. Trying not to loose hope but it all feels a bit hopeless some days. Anyway, I’ve now given up both booze and caffeine and I’m very fond of both of those, so I really hope I get some pay back
Yes, @mrsy87 we’ve been using opks. Used them with dc2 and they worked a treat then as I was ovulating earlier than I thought I did so we were able to conceive really quickly. I’ve currently just started the clear blue trial though and as I’m in the control group, no opks for us for the next couple of months. Just going to try lots of shagging which will be totally bloody exhausting

@MrsY87 Yep, been using opks for a couple of cycles now & finding them pretty easy to use. I actually ovulate a couple days later than I thought so maybe that's been a factor in lack of bfp... Literally just started temping the past 3 days so it's all new territory there. Using Fertility Friend to chart it.
Sorry to hear AF arrived :(

@MissDollyMix Same here. My youngest is nearly 5 now so wondering if things are slowing down now I'm in my 30's 🤔 Well done on the booze & caffeine abstinence! I'm still having the occasional drink pre-ov, maybe I should cut it out to really commit...