trying to concieve, failing

[Caseyr0se]

Hi everyone so ive been having unprotected sex for 6/7 months now and still not pregnant, its becoming concerning, with my last child i had to have my placenta manually removed because it got stuck, ive recently researched and found out that having that done is very likely to cause endometriosis, I'm now wondering if that is why I'm not getting pregnant, me and my partner regularly have sex, especially in my fertile window. Everyone keeps saying why haven't i got pregnant yet and I'm feeling like a massive failure of a woman right now.
Any advice ?

Well 1st of all ur not a failure by any means! Take a 5min look on the conception boards and ul c ur far from alone. Ive been ttc for 2yrs on and off now get down to docs and have a talk❤

Aww bless you! You are definitely not a failure! It just takes some people longer to conceive and there doesn't seem to be any rhyme or reason (with some people falling easily for their 1st and then finding TTC tricky for number 2 etc).
I'd be making an appointment with the GP to have a chat about it all as most of the time internet/Google researching is a bad idea.

Lots of love x

It's very very average for people to ttc for a year or more. You're a ways off needing to be concerned/ nervous.

You’re not a failure. And as physicskate said, it’s perfectly normal to take up to a year to conceive, sometimes longer. You have nothing to be worried about at this point in time, try not to stress yourself out

Your definitely not a failure at all. It's different for everyone . The best advice I can give is be positive and relax. I gave this advice to A friend at my work have been trying for 3 years it was taking over their lives they didn't even enjoy the sex anymore ...when they stopping trying and just relaxed and more positive they fell pregnant with TWINS!!

If only it was as easy as just relaxing, ffs.

OP, it's normal for a healthy couple to take a year or two to conceive. If you're over 35 then go and see your GP. If you're under 35 they usually won't see you until after a year of trying, because it's so normal for it to take time. But don't worry that there's anything wrong, the chances are relatively slim. You're more likely to get pregnant in the next few months. Good luck :)

Please please please stop telling people struggling with infertility to 'relax'.

It is not helpful. Being relaxed or not in no way influences your likelihood of conception (by way of example - women in Syria are still conceiving babies).

It fact - telling someone to relax just makes them feel guilty for being worried.

OP - have a hug. But the posters here speak the truth - anything up to 12months is perfectly normal. Just keep trying, and chances are you'll be fine (just like 98% of people)

Telling ppl to relax doesnt help but i dnt think they meant any harm in saying that, sum ppl dnt know what to say

100% agree with other posters. Telling people to “just relax and it will happen” is the WORST thing you can say to someone who is infertile. Relaxing doesn’t unblock Fallopian tubes, cure endometriosis, double your egg reserve... OP, like I said already, you are fairly early on in this whole thing, wishing you lots of luck on your journey

@Caseyr0se it seems like an eternity. I know. Sending massive hugs. Have you tried opks or bbt? It allows you to track ovulation and confirm it. I found that trying to 'relax' was impossible. So find what works for you. I need to be in control. So I do my best to try everything I can. So that each month if we don't get bfp I know we did everything we could. Irrelevant of what we do and how much I track, the lead up to AF is still harder each month. Good luck. And don't be hard on yourself. X

just thought id update that I'm 7 weeks pregnant yay ! i started tracking my periods and ovulation with an app called flo, seemed to work !

Congratulations @Caseyr0se