Can anyone help with who the father is likely to be based on these dates please?

[butterflystar]

1st January, unprotected sex, ejaculation, Morning After Pill. Period comes but when it does is much darker and thicker than usual, sorry TMI.

2nd February, brief unprotected sex, no ejaculation, Morning After Pill. Period comes and is a normal period.

18th February go to Dr over feeling dizzy - Dr find low levels of HCG. Monitored for a couple of weeks, HCG levels decline. No pregnancy.

I don't know what the HCG levels were from the blood tests, but can anyone tell me which incident of unprotected sex is most likely to have caused this?

Thank you.

I’d try and get the results of your HCG tests because the levels can indicate an estimate of weeks you are pregnant. For example if it was a chemical pregnancy (very early miscarriage) resulting from the second incident, then the levels would probably have been in the hundreds still.
But if it was from the first incident, then at that many weeks tour looking at more the thousands.
Just an idea. So sorry you had to go through that. X x x

Butterfly, is it possible that the sickness/dizziness is related to something other than the pregnancy? It might be a bit of a red herring as the timings don't seem to match well with either possible date of conception.

I agree that getting exact HCG levels might help, as a pp has outlined. Is there any way you could feel comfortable talking to your doctor about it? If he/she understands the background he/she might even be able to refer you to someone who's more of an expert and could maybe provide a more definitive answer.

Thank you all.

I didn't want to tell the Dr what happened, but you're right perhaps I should ask.

I really think the second incident more likely BUT for the fact that it was microseconds of contact without any ejaculation (that was with DP, I really wanted us to 'try' (to prove I still could) but it was ill fated and we had a condom mishap, hence the unprotected bit).

I know pregnancy can occur without ejaculation. But seems so unlikely, compared to the other full scenario?

Oh butterfly. I think take your time and talk it through with your counsellor before you make any big decisions about talking to the doctor.

To be honest, now that you've outlined the timeline more I wonder whether the dizziness and fainting might be related to the first incident itself, rather than to a pregnancy. The body responds in a lot of surprising ways to trauma.

I really think it's more likely to have been a chemical pregnancy from the second incident. As you say, pregnancy certainly can happen without full ejaculation. And if it was the first instance, with the weird period afterwards being a miscarriage, I don't think you'd still have HCG levels indicating pregnancy by the 18th Feb. If it was the first incident and the second period was the miscarriage, then I don't know at all what the first period would have been - as pp have said, it doesn't sound like implantation bleeding.

Have you been able to talk to DP about any of this? It's an awful lot to try to straighten out on your own.

I'm so sorry that you were assaulted.

Whilst we could all take a guess at which incident created the pregnancy, unfortunately nobody is going to be able to tell you for sure.

As other posters have mentioned, the HCG levels may be an indicator, but even with those I'm not sure you can be certain.

I hope your counsellor can help you work through your feelings.

Thanks all.

Maybe I need to stop trying to work it out.

Either way, he's put me in this horrible position of having to wonder, which I never should have been in the first place.