Who should carry protection?

[ChantelleKKK]

My friend has found out she's pregnant and her partner (boyfriend of six months) isn't happy and told her to be on the pill. But who's role is it to carry use protection whether its condoms, pill or other? Or are both responsible.

Both are responsible

Both!

Both. If you don’t want a baby, be an adult and have a discussion with your patented about contraception to make sure pregnancy is avoid d.

Both

Everyone who doesn’t want to make a baby or catch a STI

Both, but if I may say so, it's particularly stupid for a man to be passive about it and make assumptions, because he will have 0% influence on what happens if he does get his partner pregnant.

Agree with pp that if you don’t want to get pregnant you should take precautions. So if she can’t go on the pill for any reason then she should buy condoms, get a coil fitted, use a diaphragm or whatever suits her, and if he doesn’t want her to get pregnant then he should use condoms.

No form of contraception is 100% effective so if he was really against a pregnancy then he needed to wear a condom. If she was on the pill but was ill or missed a day then they needed to use a condom to be on the safe side.

Having said that, if they had sex without a condom because she told him she was on the pill but she wasn’t on the pill, then she has misled him.

He told her to get on the pill AFTER she got pregnant? A bit late isn't it?

Anyways,both are responsible,the one that really doesn't want children even more so.

Agree whole heartedly with pp. Men need to start taking responsibility for their own fertility.
Once the woman is pregnant the choices are all hers and he has none.
It makes no difference if it was an accident or a deliberate decision to entrap him in to parenthood.

If he doesn't want a child wear a condom or don't have sex !!

Obviously no contraception is 100% and pregnancy is always a risk whenever you have sex any time around ovulation BUT it really annoys me when men assume it’s a woman’s responsibility. If a guy doesn’t want to be a father, he should ask the woman if she is on any contraception and if she isn’t, use condoms. It takes two people to make a baby and so both people are equally as responsible in taking as many precautions as they can to try and prevent pregnancy

I disagree with PP.
If he doesn't want a baby then wear a condom. It does not matter if your partner tells you she is taking the Pill , has a coil fitted and can guarantee she isn't ovulating. It's still your choice to be a parent at this stage. Don't give that choice to someone else.

People lie.

I know it's taboo to say this but really never come across so many pregnancy accidents to people who have NO IDEA who they are making children with as I have on MN!

In the last 25 years of motherhood I've never had a friend or acquaintance find themselves accidentally pregnant from a brief relationship or one- night stand. - I have plenty of friends who've had unplanned pregnancies but all of them within marriages - we are in an area where babies without marriage is pretty rare - probably because it's very affluent and women are protecting themselves - and the unplanned pregnancy has rarely been an issue because the relationship is already sturdy.

It cannot be a random co-incident that accidents of biology disproportionately do not occur in middle class/wealthy areas. (Or they are occurring but for some inexplicable reason are being terminated - are moral decision really so economically slanted?)

Which leaves the only scientific explanation being that those with 'more to lose' (educational opportunities, career path, family and social expectations) are more likely to take contraception more diligently than those without these priorities -
In fact, where sometimes, a baby regardless of the impregnators consent, may be (for them) a valid career choice.
This is why boys need educating that contraception is very much their business. - added to that they also prevent STIs . What's not to love ?

Well yeah if you go by parenthood forums(this is not the only one) the "failure" rate of the pill is mind boggling. Everyone and their cat got pregnant on the pill and it seems to be 50/50.