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Can anyone talk to me about MMC?

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brianodriscoll · 01/03/2018 22:02

Earlier this week I was told it's most likely I've had a MMC (I was at 7 weeks - sac is the size for 7 weeks but the contents were not and no heartbeat Sad)

Got an appointment to go back in week after next but they are I think hoping the pregnancy will pass by then Sad.

Has anyone else been in this position before?

Whilst I've had strong cramps and stabbing pains on and off there's no blood at all. I just want it all to be over, how long did it take you?

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thisismadness77 · 01/03/2018 22:38

Sorry to hear that. I’ve had 3 m/c and the last two were missed. First mmc discovered at 12 week scan, and the second at a 9 week scan. Both estimated to have stopped growing around 6 weeks. No bleeding or any symptoms. It’s horrid I feel for you. I opted for surgical management as my theory was that as I hadn’t started miscarrying naturally over the past several weeks, who knows when I would. I just wanted it over. Surgery was within 2 days on both occasions.

littlecabbage · 01/03/2018 22:44

I’m so sorry to hear this. I had a MMC - started light bleeding just before 12w scan, then scan showed baby with no heartbeat which had probably stopped developing at 8 weeks. I opted for natural management - 4 days after the scan, I went into a kind of labour and passed the sac containing the baby. I guess I knew it wouldn't take too long as was starting to bleed already. Maybe it wouldn’t take lomg for you as you are having cramps?

Hope you get through it all okay xx

Thelampshadelady · 01/03/2018 22:48

I too have had a mmc discovered at the 12 week scan.
I opted for medical management and it’s something I personally wouldn’t choose again as it was unsuccessful after 2 lots of

Thelampshadelady · 01/03/2018 22:50

Sorry posted too soon....
Tablets. And I found it incredibly painful.
I didn’t want to wait as my body seemingly didn’t want to make any attempt at doing what it should naturally.
Sorry you are going through this Flowers

chickywoo · 01/03/2018 23:00

I had a mmc before dc, I started bleeding at 12 wks and when I was scanned internally they found sac was empty, so heartbreaking at the time, although there was no 'baby' to lose we had obviously spent 2 months thinking I was pregnant and starting to get excited for our 12 wk scan. Seemed like a cruel trick for my body to play Sad at first I opted to wait for it to come away naturally but after a few days bleeding stopped and nothing happened so I opted to have 'medical management' which is you are in hospital given a pessary to bring on the 'miscarriage' so to speak - I found this a long and drawn out process - first one didn't work then they had to repeat then I had to stay in overnight and then when it did work was quite painful and a lot of bleeding - also all the not nice bits of being examined again & again by nurse, senior nurse , dr etc......
In hindsight I wish I had opted for surgical management would have been all over and done with in a few hrs.

whyhastherumgone · 01/03/2018 23:06

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I had a missed miscarriage at 6 weeks but found out at 9 weeks.
It happened naturally for me and the bleeding didn't happen all at once, as people sometimes assume, but was staggered and worse at night.
The cramps were very very painful and only Solpadeine Plus that you can buy over the counter took the edge off it and made it more like an uncomfortable crampy grumbling.

I got the strong cramps first before the bleeding, the bleeding came about 4 -6 hours after they started. Unfortunately for me it wasn't quick - the main bleeding happened over two days but I had bleeding on and off for two to three weeks afterwards.

I recommend getting a variety of different thicknesses of pads (I actually found the tena lady style incontininence knickers were great for feeling a bit more protected and prepared incase it suddenly came on, you can get very thin ones that aren't noticeable beneath your clothes) and a towel for under your sheets just incase as people have variable blood loss.

Hot water bottle helped too. And if things don't seem right or you feel very unwell don't hesitate to call NHS direct or your local midwife unit.

It's a horrible time and the not knowing can be very scary, but it will be okay and you'll get through it - for me, I was so scared by not knowing what to expect the reality of it (Physically) wasn't half as bad as I was imagining. Do give yourself time to recover emotionally though, it can really hit you afterwards.

I hope you get through it as best you can and have lots of real life support, but if you want to chat or have any more questions pm me xxx

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brianodriscoll · 02/03/2018 07:42

Thank you all. I might leave it over the weekend and hope something happens naturally but if not see if I can bring my next appointment forward. They weren't clear on at what stage things had stopped being OK.

I feel like I'm in complete limbo just waiting for it and that until it happens i sometimes almost find myself thinking that it's all actually OK Sad.

Doesn't help that I don't feel any different - very tired and super sore boobs.

Good to hear experiences in surgical management - don't know a lot about that xxx

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Cakelaur · 02/03/2018 08:10

I had a mmc at 6 weeks found out at 9 weeks. I opted for surgical. In terms of the procedure it all went to plan and was the day after the initial scan. But I struggled with the concept that my baby had been ripped from me. But it was probably the best of a bad bunch for me anyway. Good luck and I'm so sorry you're going through this. Best advice... take a couple of weeks off work because your hormones will be all over the place and you'll probably want to take it easy. Sending hugs xx

WelshMammy123 · 02/03/2018 10:20

So sorry you're going through this. I had a MMC a couple of years ago discovered at a private scan at 10+2. Baby had died two weeks before. I'd had a scan at 7+2 and all had seemed fine.

I opted for surgical management as it had been two weeks and my body hadn't realised I'd lost the baby. I was also scared of doing it naturally.

The surgery was fine. I have very little recollection of it. I recovered quickly from it physically - emotionally took a lot longer.

As I say sorry you're going through it - it's really heartbreaking when it happens x

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brianodriscoll · 02/03/2018 14:22

Thanks again all of you. I think I need to ring next week and ask them about surgical management or something other than hoping for the best. X

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Anxiousfeelings · 04/03/2018 22:01

Sorry for your loss. I’ve had two MMC. The first was picked up at 11 weeks because I had spotting but the pregnancy had stopped progressing at 8.5 weeks. My strong preference was to have surgical management but because of local holidays etc the first appointment was over a week later. It all happened naturally the day before the appointment. I completely understand the in limbo feeling! It wasn’t as bad as I expected, however if this is likely to happen, I would recommend getting your GP to prescribe sone strong painkillers - I had dihydrocodeine and although I didn’t take much it took the edge off.

My second MMC was 4 weeks ago and I had no sign anything was wrong. We were actually there for a reassurance scan at 9 weeks but there was no progression beyond 6 weeks. I again opted for surgical management and had it this time.
It went very smoothly. It was upsetting, as everything is in this situation, however I felt a lot less anxious and the staff at the hospital were lovely. All the best, it’s not easy.

Primrose16 · 05/03/2018 21:26

Sorry for your loss. I had a mmc in Aug 15, discovered at 9 weeks but baby stopped growing at 8.3 weeks. I hoped to just miscarry with time but after a week I couldn’t stand waiting for it to happen. I didn’t fancy a d&c only because of very small risk of damage. I know it was small but it would just be my look. I went for the medical management. 2 pills under the tongue, tasted chalky- after then I wasn’t allowed to be left for 72 hours (slight risk of bleeding out). After a few hours things started to happen. I had early labour pains - I was given pain relief (think Codiene) but it didn’t touch me. Then followed so much blood and clots I soaked pads, clothing, sofa within minutes. I bled heavily for the evening then lighter for a week.
I’m sorry if this is too much information- I just wish I had been told

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brianodriscoll · 06/03/2018 22:36

Thank you @Anxiousfeelings and @Primrose16 all info is good info. Still in limbo. Tried calling the early pregnancy clinic but have so far just swapped voicemails. Will try again tomorrow.

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brianodriscoll · 17/03/2018 18:35

Over 2 weeks later and still no MC Sad

Definitely confirmed as a MMC this week, they had no slots for surgical treatment until last week of March so opted to medical management. Had the tablets on Thursday and nothing has happened SadSadSad.

Don't feel like I can start to deal with it properly until it happens and in complete limbo. Think I'll call tomorrow and see when the next slot for surgical is. Unfortunately they only offer a general anasthetic option when you've had a failed medical management which I was hoping to avoid.

Thoroughly miserable and fed up x

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Cakelaur · 17/03/2018 19:32

@brianodriscoll so sorry to hear this. It's the closure you need to be able to start to heal. I would say from what I've heard of some ladies experiences of the local anaesthetic I would Defo opt for general anaesthetic. It's all over and done with in about 20 mins, and just feels like a nice nap. Fingers crossed they can fit you in. X

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brianodriscoll · 17/03/2018 22:42

Thanks @Cakelaur I hope so too

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AllNamesTakenhell · 18/03/2018 07:44

So sorry for your loss Flowers. I had ERPC for my MMC too. Happy to talk if it could help.

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