Shall I just say it?

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Sorry if this is the wrong place to be posting this..

My partner has, for the last few months since we discovered my DB and his partner are expecting, been talking about baby names, how great it would be to be a dad, and so on..

I am 33, DP is 42.

I am on the Pill.

Should I just tell him I'm coming off it and I want to see what happens? His dad told me just to 'forget' to take my pill, but that's far too sneaky.

We've been together 5 years, lived together 4, so it's not early days..!

Why wouldn’t you tell him?!
To not do if really not on. If you want. Along term future with this person, probably better to not ‘trick him’ into a pregnancy

Why don't you have a conversation with him? I would be very against 'forgetting' to take it as that could lead to massive trust issues in the relationship (and rightly so).

Ask what he would like to do. Tell him what you're thinking, you know, the adult way.

Ttc is rough on relationships and open communication is absolutely key. If you get set on the ttc rollercoaster and need to Dtd at certain times you have to communicate.

Tonight at dinner "honey, I am thinking about stopping with my contraception. How do you feel about that?". And then see what he says. And if it's a no, wait a week. Some men need time to process things.

Thanks All.

I definitely wouldn't not tell him - I was shocked when his dad suggested that (this was a different conversation, I'd not talked to him about it!).

Yes I think I'll sit down with him tonight and just ask how he'd feel about it, and go from there. The worst he can say is No, and as I've not been planning for it in my head that wouldn't be the end of the world, I can wait a couple more years (I hope!).

I know it's not an easy journey, plus I'm on all sorts of medications for a chronic auto-immune condition so we'd need to see my Consultant, too.

Thank you for your advice!

As others have said - I would have a conversation with your DP. Having a baby should be a joint decision. My husband and I talked about it and decided together, despite me being broody for months before he agreed!