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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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trying to maintain intercourse

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kaurzoe1 · 21/02/2018 23:31

me and my husband are in our first month of trying to conceive and become pregnant but my husband keeps stressing too much and cannot keep an erection whilst having intercourse and is consistently aiming to just ejaculate.

we are trying everything but he keeps stressing way too much.

we have been having intercourse for the past 2 weeks and have done it at least once every other day

the way he does it is he masturbates and as soon as he is going to cum, he puts it inside me and then releases.

Can i still become pregnant like this.
I've been using clearblue and it has been showing smiley yesterday and today so we will again be trying for the next 2 days although this can be hard for my other half.

If there anything we can do and is what he is doing a waste of time?

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Bubblegum89 · 21/02/2018 23:47

As long as he ejaculates inside you then yes, you can still get pregnant. I would consider trying to be a bit more relaxed if he is feeling pressured. You are only in your first month. Trying for a baby can sometimes take a VERY long time and you don’t really want him to be this stressed every time you have sex, it can put a strain on your relationship.

AnotherOriginalUsername · 22/02/2018 07:17

Does he usually have these problems?

As already mentioned, this could be a long process and it sounds like your husband is feeling the pressure to perform.

Go back to sex being enjoyable. By all means use ovulation kits or whatever but maybe don't tell your husband - that may ease some of the pressure he's feeling. Also learn about your cycle and fertile window - your fertile window will be about 7 days with a peak of about 24-48 hours. There's no need to be at it like rabbits all month (unless both of you want to of course!)

WazFlimFlam · 22/02/2018 18:04

If its getting that stressful it may be helpful to track. Though it sounds like more of a faff it actually means there are only 2 or 3 high pressure shags a month, when you are in your fertile window. The rest of the month is unlikely to result in pregnancy, so you just have sex sex as opposed to baby making sex. And hopefully the pressure is off...

Do you know when you ovulate?

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