Long&moany - is there something wrong with me?

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Is there something wrong with me?

I’m 28, DH is 34, and we’ve been trying for over a year to concieve. We have only even needed to test about three times and thats only been because since TTC my usually 35 day cycles have started fluctuating, and are now between 34 and 40 days in length.

Since we started TTC, I have started getting sore breasts in the run up to AF, sometimes for up to two weeks, which I never had before. I also started to get cramps and things which I had never got before. The cramps are always on the same side, on my left. This time, my legs are agony and have been getting gradually more sore for about two weeks. They are incredibly sore today and I believe AF will be arriving tonight or tomorrow based on the other symptoms I usually get.

For the past few years I have started to get really emotional before AF and this time it has been horrible. I spent the night on the couch two days ago totally depressed about TTC and life in general, I was horrible to my friend yesterday and I knew I was being unreasonable (I have apologised!) and here I am spending all day on the couch again.

I looked the leg thing up and apparently it can be a sign of fibroids or endometriosis. I’m terrified there is something wrong with me. I am sure there is something wrong with me and I so desperately want to start a family with my husband, I’ll be absolutely devastated if I can’t, but I can’t keep going on like this. The emotional crash at the end of each month (and this is BEFORE AF actually arrives, its almost a relief to get her) is crushing.

I know I have to go to the doctor, its just when I phone an dthey say there isn’t an appointment for like four months, I freak out and convince myself that I’ll have concieved by then. Well the last time I did that, there was no appointments till February and here we are...

After a year with no luck, you should head to your gp for some initial tests. Maybe see if there is another nearby GP that doesn't have such long times for appointments (4 months is ridic).

80% conceive within a year of ttc. 90% (roughly) within two years of regular (2-3 times per week) unprotected intercourse.

So the statistics indicate that lots of people (roughly 1 in 10) couples may need help to conceive. I fall into that camp unfortunately.

Your partner also needs to see the GP to get his sperm analysed as in about a third of cases, that is the root of the problem.

Just an encouragement for you, really, to try not to dwell on the worst case scenario. It's almost certainly the hormones talking. They are the worst.

As physicskate said, most people don't need help, but there is assistance for those who do. Book a GP appointment (even if it seems far away) and get the process started.

If you do have endometriosis or fibroids, these things aren't always that big a deal, and having one of them doesn't mean you're ill or damaged or broken or anything like that. There are plenty of stories on MN of people who have one or the other and go on to have lots of babies. But cross that bridge if you come to it.